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Post by cameronthadreamer98 on Feb 20, 2020 17:33:45 GMT
Mainly a question for anyone in their older teens and adult years but do you ever find it hard to talk to someone your own age or relate to them because you aren’t on the same I guess maturity level they are due to daydreaming so much? I find it really hard to relate to people my own age and even talk to them about stuff because there is so much I haven’t explored that I feel I should have already because my other friends have. It’s hard being 21 but feeling like you’re stuck in a 12 year old mindset you know? I’ve daydreamed so much probably a little more now than I used to because I’m afraid of my own reality. It’s dark and lonely and my dream world is so much better. I’ve created an alter ego of myself based on the person I want to be. I don’t know I’m kinda just ranting here now but I haven’t been on here in awhile and just want to get some things out. I hope you all have been doing well.
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Post by Sam on Feb 20, 2020 18:21:24 GMT
I turn 20 in less than a month and I really understand this. What I experience is a little different, I've always had a hard time relating to people my own age, but after I isolated myself (and started daydreaming maladaptively) it got to the point where I can't talk to them. Its kind of hard to talk to and relate to people your own age when you've spent the last 6 years in a little isolated bubble because you'd rather cut everything good out of your life than have to deal with the anxiety you get when you do those good things.
I wouldn't say I have the mindset of my 13-year-old self, I've definitely grown and gotten older, but talking to people my own age (especially people I used to know) is difficult because my brain still thinks that I'm 13. It's not... I'm doing a terrible job of explaining this. Um, basically, logically I know that I'm an adult now. I can even accept that I'm an adult most of the time when I'm alone. But talking to people my own age, especially in person, is really disorienting because even though I know I'm an adult, I've been isolated from society for so long that my brain kind of still thinks that I, and everyone I knew, am still 13. So talking to people my own age and hearing and seeing the differences forces my brain to confront the fact that I really am an adult. Its weird hearing people I used to be friends with talk about going to college, buying apartments, getting married, etc. because my brain has a hard time comprehending that we aren't kids anymore. I still feel like I'm doing a terrible job explaining this.
I guess it boils down to: I share very few experiences or similarities with people my own age and thanks to my isolation, I have a hard time comprehending the fact that I'm no longer 13, so hearing my peers talk about doing adult things is very confusing (and stressful, because it forces me to confront the fact that I'm no longer a kid and I essentially wasted my teen years by daydreaming and capitulating to the whims of my severe anxiety).
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Post by Dimmer on Feb 20, 2020 21:48:10 GMT
I feel like I'm way behind my peers. Idk how much of that is normal and how much is caused by the MD. But I do feel like I'd be further along and more stable if I hadn't had it. It was at its worst during the years that were the most important for learning social and career skills.
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Post by Marcydel on Feb 24, 2020 3:54:08 GMT
Do I feel a little different? Yes-ish. Not extremely so, but sometimes (often actually) I have no idea what my friends or other peers are talking about, nor do I pretend to, but I guess I learned to sort of go with the flow.
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Post by katie on Jun 11, 2020 14:00:07 GMT
Yes I am way behind but told I am starting to catch up and feel like I always want to improve. Getting stuck in my inner world for too long 2 decades or even more I was never challenging myself to be sociable was always a distant child that kept to myself it was fine when I was young my personality was not odd and got on well with friends. As time went on I leaned on my daydreaming didn't think too much about it always taught it was cool. Spent time with learning in school and had no friends due to been bullied a lot. When I got older was too quiet around my family even my cousins drifted away from in a way as I could tell that they where more mature than me. Stopped going to visit family in my mid teen unless my parents got around me. This was when my daydreaming had all the control and I was starting to daydream for most of my evening and weekends stayed up late and tried my best to sleep. With all that I started to feel nervous around talking to people and would be pulled out by my parents if I said anything wrong but they started protect me again if they knew I was struggling to talk.I was really sick when I was little got a stint at age 21 was a 1 milometer artery that needed fixing its at 14 now and the norm for it is 20. It was hard doe my mother talks so much and even around the few friends I had left she would talk to them in my place which increased my nerves into anxiety. With this ongoing my late teens I didn't feel like I had much input in my social life so I started to get depressed at night and issues with thoughts around suicide. I used those though within my daydreaming to get it out of my head. When old friends came back into my life and I started to go out I started build on my social self again and have friends now I meet in college so 9 of us in the social circle and only meet all together a few times a year. They are so mature than me and at times I feel like I am slipping because of this so I usually do what I can with the way my social skills are. In light of this my therapist says my age of maturity is 21 and I am nearly 31. Its upsetting but when telling people about my procedure and how small my main artery leading out of my heart ways they reassure me and say how lucky I am to be alive but still can leave me with ongoing negative emotions that I have to cope with.
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Post by luna9521 on Jun 14, 2020 20:33:41 GMT
Strangely this is not the case for me, i look very young but when i talk with people they are suprised how mature iam and how many things i know. Iam kind of update to date regarding knowledge, but iam if this also applies to my behaviour. As a 13 year old i was constantly teased by the relatives of my parents to be immature, because i was shy in the presence of strangers and hide instead of speaking to them. And when i recently went to my therapist she also confronted me not being mature enough because as a 25 year old i ,,need to make my own decisions''. But maybe she forgot that being indecisive is part of a Depression. So iam if iam really that immature.
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