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Post by Bluejay on Apr 5, 2020 6:55:14 GMT
My MD makes me exceptionally happy, which is obvious considering that it's devoid of any flaws and I'm basically in complete control, but I've realized I'm way too dependent on it. If I'm feeling angry, or , or uneasy, or overwhelmed, or nothing at all, I'll MD on it rather than working on it or solving it. It only keeps getting worse. The first time that I decided to stop or lessen MD time, because of how it was taking over my whole day, I felt genuinely depressed to the core. I didn't want to. I felt like I'd be losing the best part of me. Now, for some reason, my protagonist (well me, kind of) died? And I've been actually feeling about it, as if I actually lost something, as if I'm not going to make up some other story about her the very next day. Is this normal? I mean the story isn't real, the character isn't, I know it. So, how can I be so unhealthily attached? Additionally, do you think maybe I should use this tragic course of events to just stop MDing if I'm somehow able to force myself to stop?
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Post by Sam on Apr 6, 2020 16:10:02 GMT
I don't think forcing yourself to stop is really effective. Unlike other types of addiction, you can't just go completely cold turkey on thinking. You can't lock up your daydreaming and throw away the key. Especially since normal daydreaming is a necessary function. It would probably be easier to find things to replace MD with. These could be coping skills or just things that you find enjoyable. You also need to understand that by not daydreaming about your idealized self, you aren't losing that part of you. You'll still have the memories. But by not daydreaming about your idealized self, you're gaining the ability to be more present in your life and to be able to improve yourself and achieve goals in real life. It's so easy to think of all of the things you're losing, but its important to focus on all of the things that you'll gain.
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Post by amira on Apr 6, 2020 23:25:40 GMT
Hi ,I'm Amira .I'm 20 years old .i have been daydreaming since i was a child .at the beginning it was rare but it kept increasing by time i m totaly aware of it but i feel like it s getting worse i can no longer concentrate on my studies i get easely distructed my head is burning i really do want to get rid of this MD .
I m happy to find this forum
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Post by Bluejay on Apr 16, 2020 10:55:14 GMT
I don't think forcing yourself to stop is really effective. Unlike other types of addiction, you can't just go completely cold turkey on . You can't lock up your daydreaming and throw away the key. Especially since normal daydreaming is a necessary function. It would probably be easier to find things to replace MD with. These could be coping skills or just things that you find enjoyable. You also need to understand that by not daydreaming about your idealized self, you aren't losing that part of you. You'll still have the memories. But by not daydreaming about your idealized self, you're gaining the ability to be more present in your life and to be able to improve yourself and achieve goals in real life. It's so easy to think of all of the things you're losing, but its important to focus on all of the things that you'll gain. Yes, I'll have to find ways of reminding myself to be in the present. I've started journalling whenever I have an urge to MD and I'm trying mindulness meditation, but focusing on studies has been very difficult lately. Thank you!
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Post by Bluejay on Apr 16, 2020 10:56:45 GMT
Hi ,I'm Amira .I'm 20 years old .i have been daydreaming since i was a child .at the beginning it was rare but it kept increasing by time i m totaly aware of it but i feel like it s getting worse i can no longer concentrate on my studies i get easely distructed my head is burning i really do want to get rid of this MD . I m happy to find this forum Hi, I am in a very similar situation, as I'm sure a lot of people here are. Reading the varied experiences written on the forum really does help. Welcome!
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Post by someone on Apr 16, 2020 18:07:34 GMT
Hi ,I'm Amira .I'm 20 years old .i have been daydreaming since i was a child .at the beginning it was rare but it kept increasing by time i m totaly aware of it but i feel like it s getting worse i can no longer concentrate on my studies i get easely distructed my head is burning i really do want to get rid of this MD . I m happy to find this forum Hi. I'm in a very similar situation. I'm twenty, completely aware my daydreams aren't real, struggling with studies, getting too easily distracted. I hope you can find the help you need on the forum.
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Post by 4leafrose on Apr 24, 2020 2:40:30 GMT
My MD makes me exceptionally happy, which is obvious considering that it's devoid of any flaws and I'm basically in complete control, but I've realized I'm way too dependent on it. If I'm feeling angry, or , or uneasy, or overwhelmed, or nothing at all, I'll MD on it rather than working on it or solving it. It only keeps getting worse. The first time that I decided to stop or lessen MD time, because of how it was taking over my whole day, I felt genuinely depressed to the core. I didn't want to. I felt like I'd be losing the best part of me. Now, for some reason, my protagonist (well me, kind of) died? And I've been actually feeling about it, as if I actually lost something, as if I'm not going to make up some other story about her the very next day. Is this normal? I mean the story isn't real, the character isn't, I know it. So, how can I be so unhealthily attached? Additionally, do you think maybe I should use this tragic course of events to just stop MDing if I'm somehow able to force myself to stop? I've tried several different times to end the story that my md revolves around. The first time the story reached it's climax and came to a suitable "and they all lived happily ever after" moment. I soon found that I couldn't leave it like that.. I was still younger then, and I needed some way to cope with my trauma. I tried revisiting my story at times before the ending but it wasn't the same. Sooo I kept going and ditched the happy ending. The next several times I tried to let my main character die as the climax and end. That.... that maybe lasted a few weeks... I became so attached not only to my characters that I couldn't and still can't let them go. So in order to keep the characters I love, I use a technique through my main character called "distortion." I made it up specifically to override things I don't really want to happen but that may happen due to the plot. It's basically a great big "undo" button except the person who presses the button knows what really happened. This, coupled with alternative dimensions, has kept me going with the same characters for over 10 years. if this is actually helpful:/ I suppose I'm only contributing to the addiction but... that's just what I do.
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Post by Bluejay on Apr 24, 2020 9:52:36 GMT
My MD makes me exceptionally happy, which is obvious considering that it's devoid of any flaws and I'm basically in complete control, but I've realized I'm way too dependent on it. If I'm feeling angry, or , or uneasy, or overwhelmed, or nothing at all, I'll MD on it rather than working on it or solving it. It only keeps getting worse. The first time that I decided to stop or lessen MD time, because of how it was taking over my whole day, I felt genuinely depressed to the core. I didn't want to. I felt like I'd be losing the best part of me. Now, for some reason, my protagonist (well me, kind of) died? And I've been actually feeling about it, as if I actually lost something, as if I'm not going to make up some other story about her the very next day. Is this normal? I mean the story isn't real, the character isn't, I know it. So, how can I be so unhealthily attached? Additionally, do you think maybe I should use this tragic course of events to just stop MDing if I'm somehow able to force myself to stop? I've tried several different times to end the story that my md revolves around. The first time the story reached it's climax and came to a suitable "and they all lived happily ever after" moment. I soon found that I couldn't leave it like that.. I was still younger then, and I needed some way to cope with my trauma. I tried revisiting my story at times before the ending but it wasn't the same. Sooo I kept going and ditched the happy ending. The next several times I tried to let my main character die as the climax and end. That.... that maybe lasted a few weeks... I became so attached not only to my characters that I couldn't and still can't let them go. So in order to keep the characters I love, I use a technique through my main character called "distortion." I made it up specifically to override things I don't really want to happen but that may happen due to the plot. It's basically a great big "undo" button except the person who presses the button knows what really happened. This, coupled with alternative dimensions, has kept me going with the same characters for over 10 years. if this is actually helpful:/ I suppose I'm only contributing to the addiction but... that's just what I do. Firstly, I gotta say that's real creative and fun. I understand what you're saying I don't have a key of sorts but if such a situation comes I end up revisiting some events that I liked and then one thing leads to another and bam I'm back on a multiple dimension as you said. When I wrote this thread, I was confused that my coping mechanism is actually effecting me emotionally rather than helping, but now that I think about it, there was probably some other real life issue. I guess force stopping it doesn't make sense exactly because I do find it helpful when it's not coming in between my work, infact I'm pretty sure if I didn't DD I'd be pretty miserable but I still think that because of my MD habit I don't focus as much on my real life issues like maintaining relationships etc because half of my mind has solved all problems and I have already lived in that dimension where the problems ceased to exist. So, too dependent on MD.
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