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Post by bunnylove on Apr 8, 2020 10:28:48 GMT
Hi, I hope you are all well.
I don't message on here very often but I always find this site a real comfort and help with dealing with my MD. I just wanted to check in with everyone and see how everyone is coping with isolation.
I live alone and have become very dependent on my daydreaming to get me through the day and also to distract myself from the news. I think like everyone my anxiety and stress has been very high as i am worried about my elderly relatives and family who are currently having to work to keep the country going. Also worrying about the possibility of losing my job.
My daydreaming has increased so much I spend more of my time daydreaming than in reality.
I'm just curious as to how everyone is coping, if your MD has increased or if this has helped you cut down or stop daydreaming?
Stay safe.
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Post by sarah on Apr 8, 2020 12:44:09 GMT
The first week I barely dded at all because I was too focused on the real world. The second week I calmed down and began dding again.
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Post by Sam on Apr 8, 2020 16:53:04 GMT
I've actually been daydreaming less, but its because I'm not alone as much (since everyone else in my house is working from home).
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Post by alvi on Apr 8, 2020 21:52:01 GMT
I also live alone and although I am not really struggling with the being isolated part but I am definitely daydreaming a lot more as my week is no longer broken up by even the smallest of distractions like going to the shops or seeing family and as everything is so focused on the pandemic right now that daydreaming has become the easiest way to escape any worries I have around it.
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Post by bettabunny on Apr 9, 2020 13:27:40 GMT
I live with my baby and OH. I have found it has got worse because the usual distractions and support groups I have are now out of reach. I just hope I can 'come back to earth' soon.
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lunasofi
New Daydreamer
"I like people too much or not at all." (Sylvia Plath)
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Post by lunasofi on Apr 12, 2020 20:15:54 GMT
 I daydream more since I stay at home all the time and surprisingly it's even more difficult for me to get things done, even though I have just as much with the online classes. It seems to me that I start remembering all kind of situations and I focus on past problems. I ralso ead the news all over the internet though and everything there frustrates me as well... Other than that, Wednesday I've reseen a video of Pavlov's experiments on conditional reflexes with the dog, monkey and then the child -who was fed cookies- and it's as if his eyes have been haunting me since then, it's like I've lived in a bubble and haven't realised how awful it was. But I did know though, I've never aprooved of it, it just wasn't an obsession (like it is now). Today my ex texted me, he has been the last days and I just remembered how we met during Christmas at a concert. He told me he came to see me and he was all a gentleman and full of compliments (my friends were actually impressed how even though we are not together anymore after I wanted to end it, he is still so polite - I was very polite as well). I was not flirty at all though, he tried to hold my hand without any questions - we had been broken up almost a year, he didn't know if i were single or not- and then he tried to kiss me. I didn't say anything, I just moved away. And then a guy came to our group and after a talking a little he asked me if i'm involved with anyone and out of the blue my ex said "yeah, somehow", which by the way i was not...But today I remembered an I wanted to tell him that I felt direspected, as many other times, even though it's not such a big deal maybe, but i didnt in the end, which again frustrated me... I ve never considered him superior to me, and yet he did have a lot of power on me apparently. My uni has free online therapy sessions for students and I am trying to have the guts to start to. Maybe this week. I am glad i can at least read what u guys are doing. Hope you and your families are alright! |
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Post by tess on Apr 16, 2020 21:51:23 GMT
Since I have to work from home and also live alone, I have been dd much more. But not just dd. All forms of escape. Too much of everything. Netflix, scrolling on my phone or behind the computer, reading until 2 or 3 am in the morning etc. Which then creates problems again with getting up in the morning. My whole daily routine has shifted. And I also know why. Because escaping is the perfect way to not address what is bothering me. And I've just figured out what it is. Normally I don't really mind being single. Yes, of course, sometimes I do feel lonely, but most of the times I am pretty content. I have my family and friends and I have lots of stuff to do and to enjoy. I usually only dd when I lie in bed at night because then I feel lonely and I just like to imagine that there is someone there for me. Now, that I am at home the whole day, I also feel this loneliness during the day. Hence the urge to dd, read, Netflix etc. Last week I have read 6 books in 1 week and went to bed every night between 2 and 3 pm while I had to start working again in the morning. I didn't dd because I was too tired but this wasn't entirely healthy either.
Since 3 days I have started meditating again. I am also taking walks in the park again and I am connecting with people through Skype. I hope that I'll be able to limit the amount of escapism but it is indeed a struggle when there is no one to kick my butt and tell me to snap out of it (which would be easier if I had to be in the office at 9 am every day).
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Post by bunnylove on Apr 16, 2020 22:23:38 GMT
Since I have to work from home and also live alone, I have been dd much more. But not just dd. All forms of escape. Too much of everything. Netflix, scrolling on my phone or behind the computer, reading until 2 or 3 am in the morning etc. Which then creates problems again with getting up in the morning. My whole daily routine has shifted. And I also know why. Because escaping is the perfect way to not address what is bothering me. And I've just figured out what it is. Normally I don't really mind being single. Yes, of course, sometimes I do feel lonely, but most of the times I am pretty content. I have my family and friends and I have lots of stuff to do and to enjoy. I usually only dd when I lie in bed at night because then I feel lonely and I just like to imagine that there is someone there for me. Now, that I am at home the whole day, I also feel this loneliness during the day. Hence the urge to dd, read, Netflix etc. Last week I have read 6 books in 1 week and went to bed every night between 2 and 3 pm while I had to start working again in the morning. I didn't dd because I was too tired but this wasn't entirely healthy either. Since 3 days I have started meditating again. I am also taking walks in the park again and I am connecting with people through Skype. I hope that I'll be able to limit the amount of escapism but it is indeed a struggle when there is no one to kick my butt and tell me to snap out of it (which would be easier if I had to be in the office at 9 am every day). Hi I completely understand where you are coming from. I have been single a long time and being isolated has really brought this to the forefront of my mind as usually I am the same as you my day is filled with work and family and friends that I don't notice or think about it too much but this has really made me feel like something is missing from my life and I have used daydreaming more than usual to help ease the loneliness. I am naturally a very shy person and put me around anyone I am attracted to and I clam up but I really feel like when this is over or atleast a little better i need to push myself to meet someone. |
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Post by tess on Apr 17, 2020 20:14:22 GMT
Since I have to work from home and also live alone, I have been dd much more. But not just dd. All forms of escape. Too much of everything. Netflix, scrolling on my phone or behind the computer, reading until 2 or 3 am in the morning etc. Which then creates problems again with getting up in the morning. My whole daily routine has shifted. And I also know why. Because escaping is the perfect way to not address what is bothering me. And I've just figured out what it is. Normally I don't really mind being single. Yes, of course, sometimes I do feel lonely, but most of the times I am pretty content. I have my family and friends and I have lots of stuff to do and to enjoy. I usually only dd when I lie in bed at night because then I feel lonely and I just like to imagine that there is someone there for me. Now, that I am at home the whole day, I also feel this loneliness during the day. Hence the urge to dd, read, Netflix etc. Last week I have read 6 books in 1 week and went to bed every night between 2 and 3 pm while I had to start working again in the morning. I didn't dd because I was too tired but this wasn't entirely healthy either. Since 3 days I have started meditating again. I am also taking walks in the park again and I am connecting with people through Skype. I hope that I'll be able to limit the amount of escapism but it is indeed a struggle when there is no one to kick my butt and tell me to snap out of it (which would be easier if I had to be in the office at 9 am every day). Hi I completely understand where you are coming from. I have been single a long time and being isolated has really brought this to the forefront of my mind as usually I am the same as you my day is filled with work and family and friends that I don't notice or think about it too much but this has really made me feel like something is missing from my life and I have used daydreaming more than usual to help ease the loneliness. I am naturally a very shy person and put me around anyone I am attracted to and I clam up but I really feel like when this is over or atleast a little better i need to push myself to meet someone. That's so recognizable, I clam up too. I can get along with anyone, with men too, but as soon as I really like a guy, I get nervous and don't know what to say. That is why dd is so appealing. A man always finds me attractive and funny and I always know what to say (and if I mess up, I can just start over). I don't have to be nervous and I am super confident. I wonder if we can use our dd confidence for when we go dating after the corona crisis is over. And it would be nice to talk to each other about dating and giving each other the confidence we need. Because why shouldn't we be confident? The opposite sex would be lucky to have us!!! |
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2020 0:35:41 GMT
Hi I completely understand where you are coming from. I have been single a long time and being isolated has really brought this to the forefront of my mind as usually I am the same as you my day is filled with work and family and friends that I don't notice or think about it too much but this has really made me feel like something is missing from my life and I have used daydreaming more than usual to help ease the loneliness. I am naturally a very shy person and put me around anyone I am attracted to and I clam up but I really feel like when this is over or atleast a little better i need to push myself to meet someone. That's so recognizable, I clam up too. I can get along with anyone, with men too, but as soon as I really like a guy, I get nervous and don't know what to say. That is why dd is so appealing. A man always finds me attractive and funny and I always know what to say (and if I mess up, I can just start over). I don't have to be nervous and I am super confident. I wonder if we can use our dd confidence for when we go dating after the corona crisis is over. And it would be nice to talk to each other about dating and giving each other the confidence we need. Because why shouldn't we be confident? The opposite sex would be lucky to have us!!! This is so true. We have spend years just racking up all the fun things we could do together. "What should we do today?" "Well, I've already acted out 100 possibilities in my mind, so pick your favorite" |
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I daydream more since I stay at home all the time and surprisingly it's even more difficult for me to get things done, even though I have just as much with the online classes. It seems to me that I start remembering all kind of situations and I focus on past problems. I ralso ead the news all over the internet though and everything there frustrates me as well...