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Post by JustPlainMe on May 26, 2020 17:06:38 GMT
Hi, I have been reading here quite a while. I'm in my 60s.
I have daydreamed throughout my life as early as I can remember, hours at a a time. Definitely had some family dysfunction that contributed, and daydreaming gave me comfort from emotional pain. I became religious/spiritual in my early 20s which profoundly helped, such that I was able to have a decent life over the last 40ish years and so only had periodic lapses into my fake world. The last several months I have fallen back into old habits. This time I am trying other means of coping with current stress and uncertainly.
I think i have expected it would be "gone" when I do the things I should, but what I 'm learning is to keep trying to deal with painful issues. I have seen long periods of my life where it is not even appealing, that there is the type of daydreaming that is dealing with boredom so is harmless, and then the other kind where I am deeply discontent and unhappy with my life but don't want to make it better because escaping is easier. It is an ongoing battle to stay present in my real life, but there is so much more help available now, so for that I'm thankful.
JustPlainMe
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Post by katie on May 26, 2020 20:03:43 GMT
Hello @justplainme no way are you a boomer and welcome to daydream in blue. :)
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Post by Sam on May 27, 2020 18:45:31 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
You're right about just escaping into a daydream being easier than making changes in your real life. That's part of what makes it so hard to stop. Why bother putting in the time and effort to achieve things in real life when you can daydream about them and have them and the resulting feelings instantaneously?
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Post by piphirho on May 28, 2020 21:14:38 GMT
Nice to see another boomer here. This is mostly a much younger crowd, at least according to the age poll that's on here somewhere. When we were kids and going through this we were called "hyperactive" or "emotionally disturbed". Or we were just called lazy or that we just don't apply ourselves depending on who was trying to slap a label on us. Like you I dealt with it and learned to integrate it into my life. I wonder if maybe things might have been different or if I would have gotten it together better and/or sooner without it, but I'll never really know. I did OK and it sounds like you did, too. It wasn't all bad. I have had a lot of great adventures that I never really had, but sometimes it feels like I did.
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Post by alvi on May 29, 2020 14:24:47 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
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Post by avie on Jun 7, 2020 21:50:42 GMT
Welcome to the forum. I'm in my 50s and can relate to a lot of what you said.
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Post by yourprinc3ssari on Jun 8, 2020 6:21:55 GMT
welcome!!
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