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Post by anastasia on Jun 12, 2020 19:56:42 GMT
I have been daydreaming since I was a young girl. I guess I thought it was just my big imagination, but as the years went by I realized it was something more. Today, I found a name for it, and it is such a relief to hear that there are other people like me. I never would have admitted that daydreaming interfered with my reality until the past few years. I have done many things to attempt to overcome it, including going back to college. I will be receiving my fourth college degree in a few weeks, because the fantasy version of myself is also highly educated. In that respect, I guess the daydreaming has pushed me to do things I might never have done on my own. I was a painfully shy child, and some of that has carried over into my adult life. I was awkward, lonely, and I just never felt like I fit in...anywhere. Daydreaming solved that problem! The truth is, I am still awkward, lonely, and feel that I just don't fit in, even though I have a family of my own, and a professional career. Daydreaming is where I go to soothe my feelings of sadness, loneliness, and heartache. I don't have any close friends except the ones I have created in my mind, and I wonder if the daydreaming has inhibited my ability to make friends. That is scary. Until today, I never had a name for this private and painful part of my life, and it feels good to finally talk about this for the first time.
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Post by alex on Jun 12, 2020 22:08:50 GMT
Hi Anastasia! I never talked with anyone about my DM either... I had faced some very similar problems in the past. I don't know if DM has anything to do with sociability, but it makes it more difficult to get out of the comfort zone... It won't stop you tho. I think it depends of how you use it. Anyway, there's nothing wrong in "being awkward", since you be yourself and find a way to enjoy it. If you can imagine someone nice to be friends with, I'm sure you may be one too. We can talk if want.
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Post by Sam on Jun 15, 2020 0:01:04 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
I hope that you find the support you're looking for here!
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Post by quiescent on Jun 15, 2020 1:13:37 GMT
Welcome Anastasia. :-) I admire that you've got three degrees going on four and that really shows you have the ability to succeed, even if you're struggling with MD.
It seems like a big question is if there are underlying issues, like depression or anxiety, that make it hard to make friends, and the daydreaming is a coping mechanism (?). Or in fact is the daydreaming the problem itself? Of course like everything with people it's super-complicated and it could be a little of both.
I think that's how I feel about my MD - there are some issues I could be working on, and daydreaming is a nice way of focusing on something pleasing to avoid working on them. If I could hypothetically resolve them I'd guess the daydreaming would be minimal or at least non-destructive.
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Post by anastasia on Jun 16, 2020 3:30:56 GMT
You posed some great questions about depression and anxiety. I have never been diagnosed with either, but I think it is possible that I could have one or both. I may just be very good at covering it up, I really don't know. I do think the daydreaming is my coping mechanism for dealing with a lot of things.
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