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Post by mimic on Jun 13, 2020 12:59:24 GMT
Hey.
I'm nearing my 30s and deciding it's time to do something about my MDD. For a long time I had no idea there was a term for this, I just thought it was an odd quirk I had (or immaturity I was clinging onto), until I finally got curious last year and googled it. Since then I've connected my daydreaming to my lack of motivation. Why I spent years in a job that didn't challenge or fulfill me, and other years doing nothing at all; why I've never had a serious long-term relationship, and why I look back of my 20s and feel that I achieved nothing and didn't really do much exciting or worthwhile.
On the other hand it's shaped positive aspects of who I am as a person too. I'm in love with my mind's eye, it's my escape from everything that's wrong with the world, and I want to keep exploring my own mind. I don't want to lose these things, but I want to find a healthy balance in life too.
I'm now studying to be a counsellor (about to earn my diploma, and will go for a Bachelors after), and if I want to be a good one I need to get a grasp on this and learn to manage it. Nice to be here.
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Post by katie on Jun 13, 2020 20:52:13 GMT
Hi mimic welcome to daydream in blue. Wow best of luck. I and others can relate that there is a gap in our life where we look back and feel like we got lost in time because of this and it can feel upsetting because of lack of achievement. Can see you have added certain triggers usually we say if their is a cause that might be still way you daydream to see if its needs to be taking with care and looked after in helping you by a professional.If you can think about triggers and what they are and what you want to think of way to ease them. i.e. boredom new hobby work on a hobby I have and see if a stable routine can ease it along the way. I have heard great views on how mediation work for a wondering mind and bring it back to the present, can also try mindfulness and ground Technics if you find it hard when a urge is pulling you in. See what works for you in the way you feel like you to grasp the control to find a balance with living with maladaptive daydreaming. |
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Post by mimic on Jun 14, 2020 5:09:12 GMT
Boredom is a big trigger for me, but really anything that bothers me or upsets me I tend to retreat into my mind. I feel very disconnected from the world around me. I've been looking into mindfulness (it's something we talk about a lot in counselling studies) and downloaded an app to help with it, I haven't tried it yet. |
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Post by katie on Jun 14, 2020 11:26:55 GMT
Boredom is a big trigger for me, but really anything that bothers me or upsets me I tend to retreat into my mind. I feel very disconnected from the world around me. I've been looking into mindfulness (it's something we talk about a lot in counselling studies) and downloaded an app to help with it, I haven't tried it yet. Distressing feelings and why they are there if in need of care if ongoing is something that I have been getting to the root of with help and find that talking to someone you can trust. With triggers around these If found the more I go in with them the more I can't deal with these feeling in reality and they stay with me for longer and harder to figure out what to do. I have emotional difficulties and find it hard to self regulate professional have added traits of EUPD because of this. The way I think around triggers what ones need taking care of in reality and what ones can I come up with a solution for. Overwhelming feelings of how much we feel in ways of disconnection form our reality can be lonely. All members here know now that they don't need to be feeling this way anymore and use daydreaming in blue to do so. We are all here for each other with anything that can be supported with and general chat etc... Oh that's great Yeah it hard downloaded an app for meditation and used it nearly 2 weeks after if time is there to use it if needs to be part of a routine way of looking at it and easing yourself into anything new and challenging for you mind to grasp to get the benefit of in time. |
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Post by aimlessb on Aug 11, 2020 21:03:45 GMT
Welcome. Every time i read someone's post, It's like I'm reading about myself. I'm almost 36, and I feel like I've not only wasted my 20's, but my 30's too. I'm stuck at a job I hate, My daydreams are basically the only place where I feel alive, happy and valued. Maybe you can counsel me one day. Lord, knows i need it. I can't give you any advice, because I'm just learning about it. I'm just glad that I'm not the only one.
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