ava
New Daydreamer
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Post by ava on Jun 16, 2020 4:06:56 GMT
Hi I'm a new member! I started daydreaming intensely in middle school (I'm 15 now; a rising sophmore) and it felt good because it was during the time period where I think I was moving away from (undiagnosed) childhood behaviors of OCD and panick attacks. I definitely do it to cope and can be prompted to daydream by external circumstances but it usually doesn't impede on my ability to do neccesary tasks though it sometimes makes them take longer and I definitely wish that I would stop because I feel that I live better without them and could be more productive/get further. I also definitely move my face while daydreaming and sometimes close a door or go somewhere private so I can speak/move in the context of a story. Wondering if anyone with a more comprehensive knowledge of this can tell if I have it? and either way if you have any tips on managing or stopping daydreaming. Thanks
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Post by katie on Jun 16, 2020 10:10:08 GMT
Hi can relate to you in what you are saying about it there is a criteria from mind to severe on here will link it in for you so you know and also the main researchers website daydreamresearch.wixsite.com/md-research so you know what our experiences under measures on it. So you can grasp it yourself and if not and overwhelmed you have us to talk to. Tips: Figure out what your triggers are and see if some are manageable or others need help here to ease urges. You may think about underlining causes that need a bit of extra care or even if its something you my need professional help if still an issues around your daydreaming. I have heard since meditation is something we encourage each other if someone is getting down about how much control their daydreaming has to do as it bring a wondering mind back to the present when eased into and but into a routine when starting to work to keep it doing its job. Even if you can't grasp it try mindfulness or relaxation to get your brain to relax and see if mediation is the next thing. People still share ideas that have eased it a bit all ideas are good to see what may work. We support each other around goal building that sam puts up every month can be something small even if I do put something small its not really small if its a goal I need to focus on to get to. P.s Welcome to daydream in blue. :) Here is the link to the criteria www.somer.co.il/images/MD/MD_diagnostic_criteria.pdf
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Post by Sam on Jun 16, 2020 19:40:26 GMT
Welcome to the forum! In addition to the diagnostic criteria that katie mentioned, I generally consider daydreaming to be maladaptive if it interferes with your ability to function in real life (with work/school or with developing and maintaining healthy interpersonal relationships) and/or if it causes you significant distress. You're really the only person who can determine whether what you're experiencing is maladaptive, but even if it's not right now, it definitely has the potential to become so. While using daydreams as a coping skill isn't inherently bad (pretty much everyone does it at some point or another), when it becomes the only thing you use to cope and you use it not only for big issues but also small, everyday inconveniences, that's when it starts to be problematic. A lot of us have issues with setting and achieving goals, so I do have a thread here where you can post about any goals you might have and give and receive encouragement in achieving them.
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