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Post by meziane on Jul 11, 2020 16:51:57 GMT
Am not a professional 👔but I've been trying to quit pmo for more than 2 years on my own I learned a lot about addiction. so I could fit md in the cue routine reward model, then it's an addiction cause we feel bad after doing it, not a mental disorder. here it is : cue: bathroom, bad social interaction,.... routine : it's you do during md reward : validity, escape from reality.... then shame kicks in (negative emotion in general) e. g "why am I doing this again I am a loser 😢..." and you go back to the cue. so we can make change : 1/- we replace we don't erase : it's impossible to erase bad habits but you can replace them with reading, lifting.... and it Will work like autopilot, find out who you are without md 2/- you can't do it on your own, find accountability groups and talk👄 about it plz 🙏pray for me so I have the strength💪 to quit both pmo and md, and let me know what you think about it. 👇
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Post by noelle on Jul 12, 2020 3:03:10 GMT
I've always thought of MD as an addiction for me. Once, I tried to stop daydreaming completely. I was shocked at how much the thought came up in my head. I tried to keep track and it was something like once every six minutes all day long, and that was when I was actively trying NOT to think about it and trying not to get stuck on any threads (which I did before I caught myself). In the end, I only managed to do it for maybe two days before it became too difficult, and I realized that it was giving me more hell to try and stop it than just let it happen. Now, I daydream almost 24/7, and even when there's something else that I've focused my attention on I'm only focused maybe 50%. The daydreams are never not in the back of my mind.
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Post by Sam on Jul 12, 2020 22:13:11 GMT
I've always thought of MD as an addiction for me. Once, I tried to stop daydreaming completely. I was shocked at how much the thought came up in my head. I tried to keep track and it was something like once every six minutes all day long, and that was when I was actively trying NOT to think about it and trying not to get stuck on any threads (which I did before I caught myself). In the end, I only managed to do it for maybe two days before it became too difficult, and I realized that it was giving me more hell to try and stop it than just let it happen. Now, I daydream almost 24/7, and even when there's something else that I've focused my attention on I'm only focused maybe 50%. The daydreams are never not in the back of my mind. Daydreaming itself is a natural and necessary function that helps with creativity and problem solving and can even be used as a healthy coping mechanism provided its done in moderation. Stopping completely is basically impossible because pretty much everyone daydreams. It's just the maladaptive side of it--the part that interferes with our life--that's a problem.
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