Hi my name is Laura. I'm a 31 year old mother of two. When life gets empty or abit boring I turn to what I like to call my stories for comfort. Lately I've been feeling quite lost and anxious which has led me too look forward to bedtime. It's the only time I can relax. I end up playing out scenes in my head and sometimes listen to music at the same time. I have felt lately that my real life is so dull die to a current story.
About 7 years ago I created a love story. I married a traveller. He was handsome and we just had so much fun together. It was obviously a fantasy about two people who shouldn't be together, choosing eachother. In this story I loved feeling safe and being with a man's man who was protective. In real life when going through this stage I started cleaning my house and playing songs that reminded me of this dream. Then I moved on in life and this particular story was left on the shelf.
A conversation last week about a TV show triggered memories. For the last week I've been back onto this forgotten story. Its making me want to go out in real life and drive past the places we go in my story. It's making my normal life feel boring. I've forced myself to watch a film tonight to keep busy. But I just can't wait to go to bed and create more.
A couple of years ago I had another story that became so realistic I actually kept waking up at one point because I was getting stressed about how real I felt this person was. I actually thought to myself I need to stop he's not real at all.
Anyway no idea if I will get any replies. But I just want to chat to people who also get lost in this world.
One of the issues that MDers have is with real life feeling dull. Even if you do exactly what you do in your daydreams, like going to a specific place or doing a specific activity, it can feel really underwhelming. That's part of the reason why it's so difficult to regain a healthy balance between real life and daydreams--why spend your time in the boring and stressful reality when you can instead spend your time in the interesting world of your daydreams?
Don't give up what you want most for what you want now.
I totally agree i with Sam that even if i try do do something from my daydreams in real life it simply does not feel as good as daydreams. In real life i daydream even when life is supposed to be interesting like on festival days, during a travel etc. I sort of integrate my plots to every situation of real life. And that makes me not so fun to be around because I don't contribute much to the group. I don't experience real world to the fullest. I have been working at all of this lately. Things do improve when I consciously try to be present.