Um hey , i just found out about this community and I’m happy that I’m not the only one that suffers from MD . I didn’t even know it’s a mental disorder , I’ve been wasting my life daydreaming since i was a kid and now I’m 16 and I’m tired of it Even if it makes me happy and it fills my emptiness , but I just want a cute i want to live MY LIFE , i wanna be me even if i hate myself i wanna live . I barely talk to my family I’m always in my own world i do have friends and they understand me because they have mental issues too but this is something so private something that i never thought I’d someone about , I don’t people to think I’m crazy i just feel like they wouldn’t understand . I wanna be relived, my head hurts, my hear aches it’s just so hard, I deleted insta and some of my socials because they affect me. I’m afraid that I’ll stay like this forever I’m ruining my life i hate daydreaming i hate it and I’m jealous of people who don’t (like my siblings) i just wanna be normal. I’m scared to open up to my parents they’ll think I’m insane or something , but i know that i have to go to a therapist I’m not comfortable to , like I can’t imagine myself talking to a stranger about something sooo personal face to face , The thought of that makes me anxious and scared . Probably no one’s gonna see this or reply but i just wanna get it off my chest . (Also I’m not vert good at english)
First of all, it's important to understand that daydreaming itself is a natural and necessary function and you can't really get rid of it. However, what you can do is regain a balance between real life and daydreams (one that all non-MDers already have). What that balance looks like differs from person to person and based on your situation and experiences.
If you haven't already, becoming aware of your triggers is a good first step. It'll give you some insight into why your daydreaming is maladaptive. For many of us, it's an unhealthy coping mechanism, similar to smoking or drinking. Once you know your triggers, you can either try to avoid them or (since that's not always reasonable or even possible) learn to respond to them differently. For me, one of my main triggers is anxiety. I can't always avoid things that make me anxious, but I can learn to sit with the feeling of anxiety (instead of escaping by daydreaming) or address whatever's making me anxious in a healthier or more productive way.
Don't give up what you want most for what you want now.