Sometimes, I become trapped in a daydream I don't like.
My daydreams are usually involving fictional characters from a book I read recently or a movie I watched or something. One fandom can last from weeks to years in terms of daydream material.
Every once in a while, I'll start daydreaming something like normal, but then it gets really...dark. Like, dubcon (dubious consent) or violence or death and stuff.
Sometimes it's fine, and I can work my mind around or away from it. But sometimes I get stuck in this daydream, and I want to stop because the things that I am creating in my mind are horrible things, but I don't know how to stop.
Not even stop! Just, I can't figure out how to get my mind to a different daydream or something. I know MD is something that's hard to get away from and all that, but right now I just need advice on how to stop/get out of a specific daydream.
It's affecting my life more than normal because of the dark nature of my current daydreams. This happens every once in a while and I don't know whats wrong with me! Why is my mind creating these horrible scenarios?
If you have had experience like this, if you could share that would be very helpful in convincing me I'm not messed up or sick because of this.
First of all, it's important to remember that having dark daydreams is perfectly normal and it's not a reflection of who you are as a person.
Second, while I'm not sure how well it would be applied to your situation, I have managed to completely get rid of a daydream before (I mean, I just replaced it with a different one, but I did still manage to get rid of that specific one). I'm not going to go into detail about the specific content of the daydream, but it was one of my favorite ones and I daydreamed about it all the time. I was in that daydream world when one morning I thought about the actual real world implications of that daydream. Like, it was a real world-based daydream and the plotline completely hinged on a specific thing happening. And I realized that I was going to be genuinely disappointed if that real life thing didn't happen (in actual reality), because it would ruin my ability to live out that daydream in real life. But if that thing happened a lot of people, including people I care about and love, would die. And I realized how shitty it would be to be disappointed that that thing didn't happen. I latched onto how terrible it would be for me to be disappointed every time I started daydreaming about that plotline and really quickly I lost any interest or enjoyment I had in daydreaming about that.
That makes it sound like I'm contradicting my first point, but I'm not. That daydream wasn't super dark, and even if it was, I'm not making myself feel bad about having the daydream. I was only latching onto the guilt that I would feel if I was disappointed that real life event didn't happen, not the daydream content itself.
I do dark daydreams pretty frequently and a lot of other mders do it as well, so you are definitely not alone in this. And yes it is very difficult to stop. I was just now in a dark plot that I forced myself to stop for a few minutes and log in here. I don't have an advice but try to force yourself out of it for a few minutes. Sometimes it will work and sometimes it won't. And with practice it will be a little bit easier to stop. When I am in a dark plot, I often cry and this reminds me that I need to stop, like I usually am so engrossed in the plot and when I get emotional it feels so silly because it is just fiction. I remind myself that I need to stop giving myself this emotional pain. There is as far as I know no way to stop maladaptive daydreaming but meditation and practicing to intervene when an upsetting plot is in it's initial stage. Usually it gets more difficult for me to stop after I am really into it. I know it's difficult because we often don't realize we are daydreaming until after sometime. This is really all I know.