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Post by Filipa on Oct 13, 2020 17:54:53 GMT
This is the first day that I heard about MDers. This wouldn't be a problem for me today if I didn't find myself hours and hours in the living room, with the same loud playlist and imagining that I was performing on stage. This imaginary of fame and success has been around since I was 13 years old (coincides with the sudden change in life ... divorce of my parents and leaving the city). The characters are the same but new ones are being added. The history is today more detailed and I usually get an obsessive imagination about a specific celebrity (it varies from time to time), that he would be my husband black black bla. It involves masturbation dreaming....
Today I am 29 and I noticed that when I am without a lot of work, without a boyfriend or without hobbies, this imagery is more intense. I spend hours at home imagining trailers and movies in my head. Although I LOVE the feeling of comfort that this imagination gives me, I know that it is consuming my time. I need small steps to change my life. WHAT TO DO? Help
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Post by Sam on Oct 15, 2020 17:51:47 GMT
You can work on identifying your triggers (it sounds like loneliness and boredom are some of them), and then figure out how to better cope with them.
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Post by Annie_Hephzibah on Jan 12, 2021 19:24:05 GMT
Today is I realized,that my daydreaming is actually a disorder, I always wanted to get rid of it though I have so many benefits from it. Like others I have not failed in life I have the best boyfriend, I'm an A grade student. You may think it's the starting stage so only it has not affected me, but listen I daydream from grade 5. I restrict it, I learn from in, but there is a urge in me to stop it. But this thing has helped me. I don't know what to do. Someone please help š
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Post by Theaxe on Jan 14, 2021 16:47:37 GMT
It is typical for us daydreamers to turn to daydreaming and fantasizing as a coping mechanism. So it makes sense that when you are lonely or things aren't going well in your life, you create ideal scenarios in your mind to feel better. Just knowing you're not alone, and to do more reading about the subject might even kill some of the desire, relieving some of the fear about it. Just about all of us here can relate. As Sam has mentioned, identify your moments and downtime when you're tempted to daydream. Change some of the habits you have that bring on the daydreaming, by including something productive that can keep your mind focused on something else.
Note: there are not a lot of people that quit daydreaming entirely, but there are many of us that try to manage it while living with it.
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Post by Sam on Jan 17, 2021 19:19:47 GMT
Today is I realized,that my daydreaming is actually a disorder, I always wanted to get rid of it though I have so many benefits from it. Like others I have not failed in life I have the best boyfriend, I'm an A grade student. You may think it's the starting stage so only it has not affected me, but listen I daydream from grade 5. I restrict it, I learn from in, but there is a urge in me to stop it. But this thing has helped me. I don't know what to do. Someone please help š Daydreaming is completely natural. It's important for creativity and problem solving, as well as the occasional escape from reality. Unless it's truly interfering with your ability to function, it's not really maladaptive. You could be constantly daydreaming and it would still be normal as long as it doesn't interfere with your ability to function in real life. However, if you want to daydream less, you could look into mindfulness practices, as they teach you to continually come back to the present moment. |
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Post by annenene on Jan 30, 2021 13:17:47 GMT
I used to have a very similar problem, same topics and reason, only I was 8 when we moved out of the city and itās started innocent. I ended up staring at the wall for hours imagining quarantine with my beloved music crush and all the bla bla bla. Meditation saved me. That and speaking to my therapist about my problem. After that session when I spoke about it I felt as if my imaginary oasis was invaded by some intruder, it wasnāt my secret space anymore. And then during a random meditation session a miracle has happened. I was listening to the sounds of outside and there was a metro passing every couple minutes by my house - I was visualizing my anxiety thoughts getting on that train and leaving every time it passed and that was working, I was managing to stay present in the moment. At a certain time my crush hopped on the train but suddenly I was there, calling him so he left the train and came up to me. He said to me itās time to stop this because thatās not even him but just a projection of my subconscious dressed up as him. As he spoke, he transformed into me, like a mirror reflection of myself. Then the āmeā said this is what i daydream about and asked to remember about it the next time I start daydreaming. Then āmeā transformed back into my crush, hopped on the next train and turned back to be my mirror reflection as the train was going away. Im free ever since. You can do it too  |
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Post by annenene on Jan 30, 2021 13:18:00 GMT
I used to have a very similar problem, same topics and reason, only I was 8 when we moved out of the city and itās started innocent. I ended up staring at the wall for hours imagining quarantine with my beloved music crush and all the bla bla bla. Meditation saved me. That and speaking to my therapist about my problem. After that session when I spoke about it I felt as if my imaginary oasis was invaded by some intruder, it wasnāt my secret space anymore. And then during a random meditation session a miracle has happened. I was listening to the sounds of outside and there was a metro passing every couple minutes by my house - I was visualizing my anxiety thoughts getting on that train and leaving every time it passed and that was working, I was managing to stay present in the moment. At a certain time my crush hopped on the train but suddenly I was there, calling him so he left the train and came up to me. He said to me itās time to stop this because thatās not even him but just a projection of my subconscious dressed up as him. As he spoke, he transformed into me, like a mirror reflection of myself. Then the āmeā said this is what i daydream about and asked to remember about it the next time I start daydreaming. Then āmeā transformed back into my crush, hopped on the next train and turned back to be my mirror reflection as the train was going away. Im free ever since. You can do it too |
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Post by annenene on Jan 30, 2021 13:25:19 GMT
I just want to and, that particular story was going on super intense in my head for over a year exactly, building up earlier for about a year. And what Iāve mentioned above happened in July last year so itās been half a year for me without being imprisoned by MD. After such a long time of having my escape system I felt lost, lonely and ānakedā in front of myself and by actual bare thoughts. It was also painful to let my character go but I knew itās just a part of my subconscious and it completely ruined the experience for me. I didnāt like it and kept seeking that comfort but it wouldnāt work anymore.I couldnāt be more grateful for the way it happened after all. I wish you the same
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