Most MDers are secretive about their daydreaming in real life, online communities often being the first experience they've had with talking to others like them... this message from the Forum Staff took the words right out of my mouth. I just recently realized that I have an issue with daydreaming... though after reading some posts on this site and how others feel about it, it is starting to feel more like a weird beautiful gift?
I'm a 28 year old female married with a soon to be 4 year old daughter. Im an accountant for a retail company and have been working from home since March because of Covid. The 3 of us have been home alot but I have embraced it because I am kind of an introvert anyway. My husband just started going back to work and my daughter started school in Sept so I find myself home alone alot, daydreaming more than usual. I would categorize my daydreams into 3 types. 1) daydreams where I continue to imagine reality instead of actually doing it. So for example, Ill be putting away the dishes and I will start to daydream of how I reorganize them and take some to the basement for storage, then ill move on to cleaning the living room, all in my daydream, while the real me is still just standing in front of the dishwasher like a zombie. 2) I will be having a conversation with someone and as they are taking I will just be daydreaming about a totally different conversation with the person. Like if the conversations had 2 different time lines, the one that was actually happening, and the one in my daydream. Or ill daydream about something completely off topic as they talk. (i know im rude =[) or 3) tragic accidents of all kinds.
From what I have read, some people are saying they feel or think or suspect that childhood trauma could be a cause of this. I do have some childhood trauma... my mom was in a crazy fire when I was 3 years old and had a long hard recovery of 3rd degree burns, my older sister (6yrs older) has been blind since she was 3, and then had kidney failure. My mom donated a kidney to her 15 years ago and she is about to get a second transplant in November god willing. When I was 7 months pregnant I was hit by a car while I was just walking on the street. My unborn daughter wasnt harmed at all but I broke my leg and the rest of my pregnancy was pretty horrible. I considered this as just my life, you know shit happens, but reading it out loud I can see how these were all traumatic experiences for me. Should I speak to a therapist? I would say I suffer from anxiety, ADHD, depression, but I havent been diagnosed.
Im not incredibly productive these days... the world really has a way of getting me down these days, but I wouldnt say that Maladaptive Daydreaming has harmed me in many ways other than just wasting time. I have always been highly independent as my mother til this day spends alot of time caring for my sister. I have had a job since I was 14, moved out at 18, got my BA in Accounting, got married and had a child, just bought a house this year! One thing I will add though, that I dont necesarily hide but it isnt something that everyone knows about me is the I smoke weed. Have been pretty much every day since I was 14.
I honestly have no idea how long I have been daydreaming like this. This is the first time it has occured to me to google this. I don't know if it is a problem I should be concerned about...
I am thankful to have found this forum. I look forward to reading responses but if I get none, atleast I gained some clarity from writing this all down.
The traumatic events you have experienced in your past and the issues you have describe with your anxiety, speaking to a therapist might be very helpful to you even if you don't decided to talk about your daydreaming. They all sound like such terrible and frightening situations to have lived through that maybe it could help to find a professional to discuss how you have processed them.
"I just recently realized that I have an issue with daydreaming" this alone and the fact you felt the need to google daydreaming makes me think that it sounds a lot like you have MD. There are times when it feels like a gift, a way to relieve stress, escape your reality and engage your imagination but over time when it starts to detract from you real life and negatively affects your day to day living it really becomes a problem.
I really hope you can find some help and support whilst you are looking through the posts on daydream in blue as I know that with posts such as yours there will always be someone out there who can relate to them which really will make them feel a lot less alone. Take care.