When I daydream, I'm very connected to the characters in my inner world. We've been through so much together that no one will ever know. Of course, I'm well aware that the people and events in my thoughts aren't real. I'm a daydreamer, I'm not delusional.
Still, sometimes I'll be about these people that mean so much to me and suddenly reality hits me and I must recognize once more that they aren't real. It's a hollowing, lonely feeling. They are my best friends, my family, but they aren't real. It's and scary all at once.... to think that the people who are always there for you and that love you unconditionally.... aren't real. To think that I am far more alone in reality than in a dream.
But worse, I feel like a traitor to the real people in my life for mourning people who don't even exist. Real life is beautiful too. Painful too and beautiful. Though I have yet to find someone to care about me as much as I care about myself in my dreams. That's the crazy part. Realizing that all these people are me. I suppose it's good to have me.. because I AM real. And I will always be there for me.
Post by thehopelessromantic on Nov 11, 2020 22:03:11 GMT
When you remember these people in your daydreams aren't real, it's a good thing. Self-awareness especially when you're having a vivid episode of daydreaming can ground you. As bad as it feels, as lonely as it feels, it reminds you to get up and go out there and speak to real people. Cultivate real relationships.
The pain can be good if it pushes us to seek more beyond the world of the imagination. Your daydreams are a temporary band-aid on loneliness, sadness, awkwardness, etc. When you snap out of a dream, remind yourself you are still capable of having just as awesome a life, and just as fulfilling relationships as in those dreams. But to have them in real life, it takes effort. It takes talking to real people. It takes accepting that people are never perfect, and they will hurt you, disappoint you, make you feel lonelier than when you are literally alone. But real relationships are meant to be difficult to keep. When you've had to work for a friendship to stay intact, you feel so much more fulfilled. Then when you find a forever-friend, you have a sense of safety and happiness that a dream could never compare to.
And don't feel guilty for going back to the daydreams from time to time if it helps you feel better. Just police yourself. Make time for important things, and only use daydreams as a temporary crutch.