I’m Clare-Mae and I’ve just joined this forum after wanting some support with my self diagnosed Maladaptive Daydreaming.
I wanted to ask if anyone can relate to the things that I experience with MD.
I’ve had this condition since I was about 5 years old, and there was always a person that the MD would be focused on, and after a while, it would move on to someone complete different which is what I’m currently experiencing as an adult.
I definitely have this condition as I need to rock back and fourth to become immersed in the daydream and to keep it going.
I also act out ‘scenes’ from whatever the daydream’s about and Male facial expressions to make it feel more real. For example if it’s a happy theme and I’m smiling at someone, I’ll start smiling.
Music is also a huge factor in it, and I listen to different types of music depending on what the theme is at the time.
It typically starts out with an increased interest in a particular person, in the past it’s been fictional characters but most of the time it’s a celebrity.
I then get up the point where I’m constantly about them and things can trigger me to daydream about this person, ie things from films, TV or even just thoughts,
I then find that the daydreams and the person I’ve been fixated on dwindles and fades away, but not completely as I do still have occasion daydreams about past ones.
It then seems to stall for a while until someone else appears to become of interest, but it doesn’t seem to be on a conscious level and it’s usually someone that I would never think about otherwise. It’s very random and I don’t know who it’s going to be next.
Does anyone else experience this? Does anyone have Maladaptive Daydreaming that goes on to someone and then eventually fades away until the next person? Or am I possibly the only one that gets this?
I just want to point out that there’s no romantic interest, it’s almost like I’ve found the person interesting and want to know more about them and this becomes a temporary fixation.
Please let me know if anyone else can relate to eat I experience. It’s always a relief to know that you’re not alone.
Thank you, and stay safe during these difficult times
Yes it has happened to me few times where I dream about with someone and then it disappears like it never happened and out of no where looking at someone it's appears all of a sudden and gives you the urge of dreaming that with new person.
Yeah,I can relate to all that. I OVER daydream about everything ( especially my favorite singer 👉👈 ). I can arrive to the point of making it soooo real, like talking, crying, smiling, laughing... I do like that whenever I'm alone, and when I'm with someone or at school I'll be just daydreaming in my head while watching out my facial expressions . And Yes, most of the time I need music to daydream.
I do the rock back and forth thing and expression thing too. It is actually pretty common. Though it is not possible to completely eliminate the triggers, you can consider giving up on music, movies and whatever it is that is sure to be a trigger. For example for me is reading fiction novels and stuff that always triggers me and I don't do that anymore.
You are not alone! Your post made me so happy because you are the first person I’ve seen that conveys in words what I deal with so well. I’ll fixate over someone and daydream a lot, I’ll start losing steam on my interest at some point until my next interest comes along and shifts my focus and the vicious cycle repeats.
Yes this is something I experience almost everyday. I practically involuntarily start walking back and forth when I start falling into these dreams. I also relate to the acting out part and i've also seen that it will effect my mood throughout the day too. Like my day dream would be about something and I'd realize I would still be upset long after the dream ends. The dreams I have also change from person to person and scenario to scenario too; it's really rare I ever day dream about the same thing for more than a few days. You are definitely not alone!
Post by rosepinklemonade on Jan 1, 2021 7:20:25 GMT
For me, its constant pacing, while throwing an object (like a bouncy ball or apple) in the air. Catching it and throwing it back up as I walk back and forth. Sometimes I'll swing my arms or do glides and jumps if I'm in like a really intense fight scene. I also listen to music. like you it depends on what the scene calls for. But yeah, when I'm struck with the need to daydream, my whole body gets anxious to more around like I do. Its hard to say how much of it is from MD and how much is just muscle memory as this point.
Post by ohmymagenta0214 on Jan 3, 2021 3:12:52 GMT
I can absolutely relate to your post! I will daydream about a specific fictional character intensely & after several weeks it’s like I run out of steam. I’ll then have to either divert back to an old daydream scenario or wait for another character to focus on, which can be incredibly frustrating, While I am in the process of daydreaming, I listen to music with my AirPods, mostly in the dark alone. I can daydream during long car rides & such too though, but not as comfortably. Can’t even imagine bouncing a ball! I’m such a klutz id be more focused on that than daydreaming.
Yeah totally I have been suffering from MD since I was 3 years old. Has gotten so bad to the point where I need to walk back and forth and talk out loud and because I'm 14 I still live with my parents so when they walk in on me maladaptive daydreaming pretty awkward.
I’m new here too, and what you talk of sounds a lot like me. In my case MD started to become prevalent in about 7th grade as far as I can think ( I’m only a sophomore now ). Any piece of literature or media would be developed into some story for me. I’m and artist so I tend to draw these original characters I develop in my mind giving them faces I can envision more clearly. On days where I’ve been home alone I’ve acted out as these characters event. To the point where I have small spikes of energy and act out scenario physical, not just vocally and mentally. As I’ve started to get older I’ve realized that a lot of my “plot points” are a way to control or “play up” bad or inconveniences in my life as way to say “it can be a lot worse”. Now with the pandemic, the death of my dog ( who I’ve seen as a best friend since I was two [I’ve spelt and cuddled her in her bed]) and the lack of connection with my girlfriend it’s gotten more frequent. But because I’m depending on the coping method so much... I’ve started to run out of things to think about. Things seem to dull and others too bright. Over the winter break I’ve tried to take a load off and act like a kid again which brought smiles to my family. But I don’t know how long it will last.
Yes very relatable. As to mine, there's always been one person who appears on my daydreams who have an interest on me at some point. And I always daydream about random situations where this person and other imaginary audiences kind of look up to me and that I'm the star of these dreams. Its kinda like boosting my narcissist and egoistic side. But I also have that daydreaming with fiction characters and celibrity.