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Post by tcanetrash on Nov 19, 2020 15:38:49 GMT
started daydreaming today for 1-2 hours and i felt like wtf am i doing with my life, this is so stupid! iam imagining a person who never existed and will never exist and started dreaming about it which is so weird and i know i have been doing this since i was a kid and everyone does that but i need to come out of it and it is so out of control that when i start doing it, i dont realize that iam doing it.
i get stressed out when i think about my exams and college, i got lots of other problems with me and i dont know how to deal with these things anymore. daydreaming is making things in my life slow down and i feel like iam wasting my life for something that doesnt exist in my life.
i dont know why iam sharing all of these things in open to the internet.
if u are reading this, thank you i guess? but dont be mean to me cuz iam already fu**ked up right now
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Post by fellowmder on Nov 20, 2020 3:45:11 GMT
Hi there!!
Daydreaming does take a toll on our day to day lives. It is good that you have started questioning if it really is necessary to daydream when it is never going to become real for you. I have recently started journaling my entire day to bring myself back from my continuous daydreaming spree. every morning just sitting on my desk and writing the fact what i did first thing in the morning when i woke up helps realizing how time went by. It just taunts me with the fact where i wasted time. Try doing this and keeping that notebook always in front of your eyes. Another thing is don't expect too much from your college work at this stage- its fine if you did shit until the fact that you are trying to free yourself from daydreaming---if you are that daydreamer that has perfectionists as the characters- don't expect the same for yourself because you are a real person.
be free to talk to anyone of us directly as well, no one is going to judge you because all of are going thru very similar problems
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Post by Theaxe on Nov 22, 2020 20:42:51 GMT
Try taking it from another angle. Instead of  about how to stop, about what you can do to curb the tendencies and reduce how much you daydream. If you think you have more of a problem when you are alone, try going someplace and doing something to keep you busy. Start making it a habit. Keep a routine of things to do everyday at a certain time. Incorporate some good habits. (Something silly like making your bed every morning if you don't already do this, making it a job to do each day, but also preventing you from diving back into it to daydream once it's made.) The more you reduce the moments that are a problem, the less you may find you'll daydream. For me, I've been at this for over forty years. (I'm currently 46.) So I have learned to live with daydreaming at only a couple of intervals of the day, but they never get in the way of life now, and they are not extended periods of time anymore. I am okay with this. I may not be okay with completely stopping as I might miss my imagination too much. But finding a way to live with it and reduce it first is a good place to start, rather than trying to just stop cold-turkey. |
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Post by thedolphinbaby57 on Nov 22, 2020 21:26:59 GMT
Think about what you can do better instead of daydreaming. You can't just pause Madd like it's a video because then you may daydream some more. If you catch yourself daydreaming, quickly think about what you can do instead and what may distract you. Think about how to respond to that urge and not spend excessive times daydreaming. I hope this helps!  |
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about how to stop, 
