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Post by Theaxe on Nov 22, 2020 3:56:07 GMT
Does anyone else choose their books to MD to, specifically looking for key characters to either play out in your mind with you as one of the main characters or other people you enjoy daydreaming about? I find that I particularly have a hard time reading fiction with men as first-person characters because.. it prohibits what I can daydream. I'm not a man, don't think like one, and prefer books where there are strong, beautiful female leads that I can lose myself in.
Do other daydreamers do this?--use a book as a sort of script?
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Post by james on Nov 29, 2020 20:32:05 GMT
Hi Theaxe My name is James and I’m 47 and from Yorkshire in England and have been MDing for about from 1984 possibly due to childhood trauma and I have spent hundreds of thousands of hours escaping to better places, more fun , highly planned , ticking to time , upset if distracted, wandering eyes, afraid to be discovered and I have to say I wish I could have told myself not to back in time in 1984 as it’s done me no good at all I don’t think I’ve got into any good book, film or music without planning a Md session Due to my age forums are not for my due to technical issues and incompatible with the youth of today who bless em haven’t often responded to previous posts However I will be happy to expand if you wanna do some more Kind regards James
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Post by Theaxe on Nov 29, 2020 20:50:02 GMT
At the time I write this, I'm 46 and like you have been daydreaming most of my life. I'd say that my daydreaming goes back prior to kindergarten years, when I was old enough to watch TV on my own and had developed independent thinking. I do find that as an older daydreamer, we have had plenty more years of despair, whereas the young people today have the benefit of hopping online to research and *bam!* find out what maladaptive daydreaming is and learn from an early age how to cope/manage or even eliminate it from their lives.
I hate to sound like one of those old people that say "back in my day" - but it's true. As you know, back in my/our day, we had no internet, further - we had no one researching MD even if there was the internet. We have several more years of learning to hide and manage our daydreaming habits, several more years of being frightened, several more years of keeping silent about it and wondering quietly if this was normal or if we were the only people in the world doing this. I was about 40 by the time I learned what MD was. I can't imagine what my life would have been like if I could have found out at the age of 12.
Since a young age, I did dive into books to escape. I'd find some character that suited me playing, and a plot that made me feel something I could relate to. I had done this my whole life, hence why most of the books in my library have female main characters and are set in places pleasing to me. Losing myself in a book was an easy way to daydream without being caught. No one questions what you're doing when you read. However, if you live with someone, but feel a tendency to sit in a room by yourself and laugh at seemingly nothing, then if you're caught, sure, it seems weird. Reading a book for me was always a cover up.
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Post by darci on Nov 29, 2020 21:18:54 GMT
I most definitely use books as an escape! It started as me just reading books with female leads in settings that I liked, but it quickly escalated into reading stories that are "x reader" meaning the author quite literally writes you into the story. I've always had the ability to put myself in the book, It's as if I'm actually there. Once I get into the book it starts to affect my daily life. I'll spend hours on end reading it even if I don't really have the time, for example, last night I stayed up until five am reading a current book. I knew that I needed to wake up early, but I just couldn't stop myself. I was finally pulled away from it when I realized that I had dozed off and finally was able to turn over and go to bed. I imagine it so vividly that I'm actually in the story. Any emotions my character or sometimes even the surrounding characters feel, I feel as well. I often find myself bawling, or in an absolute giddy and giggling state. Emotionally I feel as if these things have actually happened to me even though I know that they haven't actually happened in real life. A lot of the times I get so connected to a story that after I finish I can't force myself to start another story for a while. After I finish ones that I'm very invested into I'm left with this empty feeling. It's a very hard feeling to describe, but it's like I wanna be in that world instead of this dull current one. This fills me with a despair feeling knowing that could and would never happen. Often times it makes it hard to do day to day things, ripping all of my previous motivation away from me. I have such a love hate relationship with reading because I love to dive into these other worlds, but I despise the feeling I get when I have to leave them. This feeling is actually what made me start searching the web for anyone else who might have similar issues, it made me feel helpless and I didn't like it.
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Post by colerolls on Nov 30, 2020 5:30:12 GMT
Yooo Fr tho I would make up basically whole movies while I would daydream, very detailed too
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Post by colerolls on Nov 30, 2020 5:33:20 GMT
Does anyone else choose their books to MD to, specifically looking for key characters to either play out in your mind with you as one of the main characters or other people you enjoy daydreaming about? I find that I particularly have a hard time reading fiction with men as first-person characters because.. it prohibits what I can daydream. I'm not a man, don't think like one, and prefer books where there are strong, beautiful female leads that I can lose myself in. Do other daydreamers do this?--use a book as a sort of script? I’m so glad I just found this website , I always thought that i was weird or different for having daydreams like this but now realizing that a lot of other people experience this too. Makes me feel A LOT more at ease!
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Post by pixeltiger73 on Nov 30, 2020 15:50:04 GMT
I do that with books, as well as movies and TV shows. I like to read the book, play around with it. Maybe find a new character to add, or a plot twist. If I can, I like to watch the movie, since visuals really help when finding stuff to add to daydreams. I love to read, and I definitely believe that at least a small portion of my daydreams come from books.
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Post by Theaxe on Nov 30, 2020 18:26:59 GMT
I like to watch the movie, since visuals really help when finding stuff to add to daydreams. I try not to spoil my imagination (which sometimes films will do - they'll influence how I will read something afterward) so I'll look on Imdb to find out which actors and actresses fill the roles so I can either put them in as characters, or put people like them in as characters. If I do end up watching the film, it does help with some murky areas of the book that I couldn't exactly put a place to or what exactly had happened, so it's more clear to me. But it's sometimes my last resort. If a book has not been made into a film, then I rely on character descriptions if I can find them online. I might even cheat and go to Wikipedia to read the outline of the plot so I know what I'm getting myself into. I'd hate to invest a lot of time into a book just to find out that something happens that will upset my emotions, such as: my love interest ends up running away with another woman at the end of a story, yet I've just taken the time to develop myself as the first woman. I need to understand from start to finish where the character that I'm going to portray is going to be, and whether or not her ending will be favourable to me. :) Also.. I tend to read slower than most people. I end up chewing on a lot of the scenes and sometimes rereading them just to get a good visual in my head. If the book excites me enough I can move along and read faster, but as someone MD-ing to the book, no.. I'll take my time.
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Post by pixeltiger73 on Nov 30, 2020 18:32:59 GMT
I like to watch the movie, since visuals really help when finding stuff to add to daydreams. I try not to spoil my imagination (which sometimes films will do - they'll influence how I will read something afterward) so I'll look on Imdb to find out which actors and actresses fill the roles so I can either put them in as characters, or put people like them in as characters. If I do end up watching the film, it does help with some murky areas of the book that I couldn't exactly put a place to or what exactly had happened, so it's more clear to me. But it's sometimes my last resort. If a book has not been made into a film, then I rely on character descriptions if I can find them online. I might even cheat and go to Wikipedia to read the outline of the plot so I know what I'm getting myself into. I'd hate to invest a lot of time into a book just to find out that something happens that will upset my emotions, such as: my love interest ends up running away with another woman at the end of a story, yet I've just taken the time to develop myself as the first woman. I need to understand from start to finish where the character that I'm going to portray is going to be, and whether or not her ending will be favourable to me. Also.. I tend to read slower than most people. I end up chewing on a lot of the scenes and sometimes rereading them just to get a good visual in my head. If the book excites me enough I can move along and read faster, but as someone MD-ing to the book, no.. I'll take my time. I've never thought about it that way. What I usually like to do is read the book first. I have a pretty good character description from the book in my head, and I usually evolve the character in my own way afterwards. If I can, I'll then watch the movie, which fills in the physical traits of the character like hair color, facial structure, etc. I like to keep the way my characters look pretty similar to what the original idea of them looks like, if that makes any sense. I get where you are coming from though, and I tend to feel the same way sometimes.
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Post by thedolphinbaby57 on Dec 1, 2020 4:24:01 GMT
I don't read books anymore like I used to when I was younger yet the top of my closet is filled with books of all kinds from over the years. Unlike y'all, I don't think I daydream that much when it came to reading books. Whenever I would read books I would always picture what is happening in my head as I read if it was a chapter book. Graphic novels are my favorite kind book and I like them a lot. As far as TV shows and movies, that happens to me big time. Every-time I get finished watching an episode of a tv show or watching a movie, I daydream about the same exact plot but with me as the main character and interacting with the people from the screen. I may change up things from how they actually were and bring my own made up characters involved. It sucks because I feel like I can't watch and enjoy anything without daydreaming about it later on especially if it's a show or movie I like.
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Post by james on Dec 5, 2020 21:54:47 GMT
Woah Responses, steady on , Yes , I’m really pleased the youngsters as you say can often access help on the good part of the internet As I imagine with many other things , “there’s nothing new in the world it’s all been done before “ is an old saying and perhaps it applies as much to MDing as say being LGBT in similar times years ago , an often frightening,lonely and tough existence I’m seeing a good clinical psychologist actually finally and whilst he can’t quite say Maladaptive Daydreaming ( as it doesn’t appear in the official manuals yet ) he seems in his laudable search for what he calls “shared understanding “ recognises a severe sort of disassociation disorder and multiple ways my personality hasn’t developed past childhood . Bit late for me , head burns , nightmares are still lavishly produced and horrific I had an internal implosion after trauma facing medical tests and I have no MD , no personality traits ( I was too busy to develop these you see )and only hope I help someone here Anyhoo, I might keep posting , really appreciated your alarmingly close comparisons to me Kind regards James
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Post by james on Dec 5, 2020 22:25:23 GMT
Hi James again We gives whole new meaning to “ getting lost in a good book “eh What i kinda forgot to finish with is that I use to have extremes of emotions, since the breakdown all this has gone , you see life fuelled my MD but MD often didn’t return the favour so many disappointing personal relations issues Anyways, thing is I’m doing my best with the little I got and I say try to get out and use this monster as a force for good either in writing, teaching , counselling, art, museums or theatre ( when they reopen 😬), can you use it as your livelihood Tell I’m from Yorkshire
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