Hi, my names Cate. I'm 17 and have been suffering from MD for as long as I can remember. I only recently found out that MD was a thing and I'm so thankful I'm not alone.
When I was younger I used to get really and depressed when I heard people talk about dreams and it was different to me. I felt like something was wrong with me and some nights I would just cry. My daydreaming started to get serious when I started getting bullied. I would feel comfortable in my daydreams as in them I had control and I imagined id these bullies liked me.
I have heard how some people have gotten over it and I really need help. I already struggle a lot with PTSD, ADHD and OCD, MD has made things so much harder. I can barely focus in classes, I avoid social scenarios and seeing people just so I can sit on my bed and daydream. I have really severe repetitive movements and lots of triggers.
It's taking over my life and I just can't live like this. It's so difficult and I have no one to talk to. Please if anyone has gotten over MD or reduced the effects of it please give me advice.
Hi Cate! I spent most of my 17th year immersed in MDD, so I can relate. Now I am *much* older and I have had some years where MDD was not even tempting, and others where it sucked me in again.
I think being on this forum, you are starting in the right direction. It has helped me to realize that daydreaming in itself if not harmful, it's when it becomes substitute for having a real life. I can tell you what did not work for me... trying to stop cold turkey. A few times in my past I did do this, but without dealing with the underlying issues, and finding an alternative way to deal with emotional pain, it came right back. Over about a year it has become much less tempting, as I have built a couple of wonderful friendships that have helped by them listening to me, and me listening to them. (Not necessarily about the daydreaming... just friends so that help me be empathetic to someone else).
Yes reality is painful, but it is rewarding too. It's worth the inevitable messiness. If I could talk to my 17 year old self, I would say, look around for someone else who needs a friend, don't give up! You have value and worth, something to offer someone else. You don' t have to be perfect like everyone else appears to be, that we all have baggage and garbage in our lives, that can help us grow and empathize with others. I hope this does not sound trite/cliched. You are brave to deal with all that you are dealing with .