I am grappling with this as someone in my forties, who has had people around my main daydreaming character (me) for many years -- that just aging them is an issue.
One of my closest characters actually did die in real life in his early forties, and I had a very tough time dealing with that. I took a bit of time, but decided I would keep him living in my daydreams. Now I'm stuck with not knowing how he'll age, so I have to just create it myself. Another character in my daydreams is a guy I only knew very little of in highschool, so aging him was strange because I never kept in touch with him, and it's been almost 30 years. Out of nowhere, I saw him on the news as a spokesperson for this company, and it hit me by surprise. It was absolutely him, only a tad heavier with a bit of grey hair. That one moment allowed me to continue on with him.
But I just can't bring myself to kill off the people I've been so fond of over the years. I'm at a point now where I think I will just carry on living in my daydream with them beside me, and may have these thoughts until I'm on my own deathbed.
Post by ohmymagenta0214 on Dec 28, 2020 2:57:02 GMT
I once had a beloved character die from a cirrhosis induced heart attack. To top it off, I found him after he’d passed. I wasn’t prepared for the intense level of grieving I experienced & it became too much to endure. Ultimately I brought the character back & dreamed he made it out of surgery successfully instead.