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Post by foxyfox on Jan 19, 2021 15:54:03 GMT
 I found out that the thing that i have been doing already almost 30 years is called maladaptive daydreaming yesterday from tiktok video. I got very confused. I am desperate to tell my story anonymously since i have not told it to anybody. There is just not enough vocabulary to explain. I started daydreaming when i was 3? I was small and used repeated movements to get to my dreamland. At age around 10 it stopped and returned at age of 13. I had traumatic relationships in my family and was very lonely. Since 13 it has not stopped anymore. When I was 14 I spent 90% of my time in my dreams using music. I barely remember my high school. But with my will i finished it and easily entered university. Now i spend about 20% my time during day in daydreaming. I does not stop me from work. Mostly i daydream during breaks, cause i work from home. My daydreams are very detailed, I have different storylines, I talk, laugh, feel loved, or cry when feel  . I daydream about myself in other realities taken from my favorite books. Very rare about my real life conditions. I get a lot of emotional resources out of my daydreaming. My family (I am married) is understanding and respect my privacy. But staying in my parent house recently I had to rent an office to daydream because there was not enough privacy for me. I told parents that i had to work and I was working 1 h out of 5-6 (nobody gonna know). My close friend told me that i would be like 5 times more successful without my daydreaming. Don’t know about this but my daydreaming does interfere with work sometimes and mostly with my social life. I have everybody whom i need in my daydreaming world. I don’t want to stop, but I very much want to feel the same joy in the real life that i feel in my daydreaming. I work with psychologist for a long time and recently I ve got more interested in the real life and felt very happy about it. Recently I feel shortly during day slightly similar feelings that I had in my daydreaming, it feels nice. |
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Post by granger on Jan 23, 2021 4:12:47 GMT
Thank you for sharing this foxyfor. I also get all of my emotional fill from MDing. To people outside I come off as a distanced, boring and self sufficient person, but only I know how needy I am.
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Post by alvi on Feb 10, 2021 11:37:03 GMT
Welcome to the forum, Foxyfor
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Post by itsnoor on Feb 10, 2021 11:57:31 GMT
Same goes for me, but Im a 20 year old girl, I've been MDD for almost 6 years non stop.,,the worst part is the fact that you can't tell anyone, for me I wouldn't cuz I feel shy cuz I know what they'll say.. they'l think I'm crazy and I need a doctor, I actually went to a pyschologist but she didnt help me at all, she didnt even know this thing really existed and considered me an addict of sitting alone, cuz I'm an introvert so yea, all I wanna say is that you are not alone on this tiring journey, we are all here with you...I hope that you'll be able to get out of it soon,,take care
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Post by Sam on Feb 10, 2021 23:42:45 GMT
Same goes for me, but Im a 20 year old girl, I've been MDD for almost 6 years non stop.,,the worst part is the fact that you can't tell anyone, for me I wouldn't cuz I feel shy cuz I know what they'll say.. they'l think I'm crazy and I need a doctor, I actually went to a pyschologist but she didnt help me at all, she didnt even know this thing really existed and considered me an addict of sitting alone, cuz I'm an introvert so yea, all I wanna say is that you are not alone on this tiring journey, we are all here with you...I hope that you'll be able to get out of it soon,,take care Unfortunately, most medical professionals don't know that MD exists, which can make getting proper treatment very difficut. This is why figuring out what caused your daydreaming to become or remain maladaptive is so helpful. Your psychologist might not know what MD is, let alone how to treat it, but if it stems from other issues like anxiety, depression, loneliness, etc., they will know how to treat that and it's like that treating the root cause will decrease the amount of time you spend daydreaming maladaptive.ly. |
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Post by itsnoor on Feb 11, 2021 12:46:18 GMT
Same goes for me, but Im a 20 year old girl, I've been MDD for almost 6 years non stop.,,the worst part is the fact that you can't tell anyone, for me I wouldn't cuz I feel shy cuz I know what they'll say.. they'l think I'm crazy and I need a doctor, I actually went to a pyschologist but she didnt help me at all, she didnt even know this thing really existed and considered me an addict of sitting alone, cuz I'm an introvert so yea, all I wanna say is that you are not alone on this tiring journey, we are all here with you...I hope that you'll be able to get out of it soon,,take care Unfortunately, most medical professionals don't know that MD exists, which can make getting proper treatment very difficut. This is why figuring out what caused your daydreaming to become or remain maladaptive is so helpful. Your psychologist might not know what MD is, let alone how to treat it, but if it stems from other issues like anxiety, depression, loneliness, etc., they will know how to treat that and it's like that treating the root cause will decrease the amount of time you spend daydreaming maladaptive.ly. |
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Post by foxyfox on Feb 15, 2021 22:07:16 GMT
Same goes for me, but Im a 20 year old girl, I've been MDD for almost 6 years non stop.,,the worst part is the fact that you can't tell anyone, for me I wouldn't cuz I feel shy cuz I know what they'll say.. they'l think I'm crazy and I need a doctor, I actually went to a pyschologist but she didnt help me at all, she didnt even know this thing really existed and considered me an addict of sitting alone, cuz I'm an introvert so yea, all I wanna say is that you are not alone on this tiring journey, we are all here with you...I hope that you'll be able to get out of it soon,,take care I was shy to tell my psychologist about it, but when I did, she actually told me that if it gives me resources to feel better than it is not a bad thing. I personally noticed that if receiving the same amount of joy from everyday life, i am spending less time dreaming. There are things that cannot be solved right now and I know that I cover it up, and it is not bad thing as long as I feel comfortable. |
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I found out that the thing that i have been doing already almost 30 years is called maladaptive daydreaming yesterday from tiktok video. I got very confused. I am desperate to tell my story anonymously since i have not told it to anybody. There is just not enough vocabulary to explain. 
. I daydream about myself in other realities taken from my favorite books. Very rare about my real life conditions. I get a lot of emotional resources out of my daydreaming. My family (I am married) is understanding and respect my privacy. But staying in my parent house recently I had to rent an office to daydream because there was not enough privacy for me. I told parents that i had to work and I was working 1 h out of 5-6 (nobody gonna know).
