Post by han on Feb 3, 2021 15:31:16 GMT
Hello everyone! First off, it's so comforting to find this forum and discover that many people also experience this strange internal phenomenon!
What I wanted to ask those who are perhaps more experienced than me with their understanding of MD is what makes the daydreaming maladaptive? I'm
if it's really what I'm experiencing; I will explain my situation for insight:
I am an only child and grew up in a quiet place with not much to do, therefore I used my imagination a lot to play and find entertainment especially as a younger child. This is normal, of course, but then I did something strange during my highschool years. I created a profile on an online game acting as a boy for some reason (I am a girl). I won't go into so much detail in this post but basically, that character I created years ago (I'm 23 now) has stuck with me, despite no longer playing the game, and grown to the point where he has a whole life and friends, feelings, aspirations etc., all in my head. What's more, I don't imagine, or wish, I am him or any of the characters for that matter. I am more of an onlooker to the dreams, I am never involved, just the creator of what happens to my made up characters. I create stories for all the characters now as well, not just the boy.
As many people have said, it is addictive immersing myself in these stories. Although I still live my life quite functionally. I'm in a loving long-term relationship, about to finish my degree, holding down a part-time job and maintaining friendships in the real world. However, I look forward to quiet moments alone, such as the half hour train ride to and from work or the moments before I go to sleep, to daydream and return to this other world. I get a lot of comfort from creating this other world and will often choose to daydream about it instead of other more productive things. That being said, I still have a fair amount of control over when I do it.
So there we go. I tried to be brief but honestly, after years of holding this all to myself I just want to get it all out to people who understand! Please let me know your thoughts on whether I'm actually maladaptive daydreaming as I'm still unsure!
What I wanted to ask those who are perhaps more experienced than me with their understanding of MD is what makes the daydreaming maladaptive? I'm
if it's really what I'm experiencing; I will explain my situation for insight: I am an only child and grew up in a quiet place with not much to do, therefore I used my imagination a lot to play and find entertainment especially as a younger child. This is normal, of course, but then I did something strange during my highschool years. I created a profile on an online game acting as a boy for some reason (I am a girl). I won't go into so much detail in this post but basically, that character I created years ago (I'm 23 now) has stuck with me, despite no longer playing the game, and grown to the point where he has a whole life and friends, feelings, aspirations etc., all in my head. What's more, I don't imagine, or wish, I am him or any of the characters for that matter. I am more of an onlooker to the dreams, I am never involved, just the creator of what happens to my made up characters. I create stories for all the characters now as well, not just the boy.
As many people have said, it is addictive immersing myself in these stories. Although I still live my life quite functionally. I'm in a loving long-term relationship, about to finish my degree, holding down a part-time job and maintaining friendships in the real world. However, I look forward to quiet moments alone, such as the half hour train ride to and from work or the moments before I go to sleep, to daydream and return to this other world. I get a lot of comfort from creating this other world and will often choose to daydream about it instead of other more productive things. That being said, I still have a fair amount of control over when I do it.
So there we go. I tried to be brief but honestly, after years of holding this all to myself I just want to get it all out to people who understand! Please let me know your thoughts on whether I'm actually maladaptive daydreaming as I'm still unsure!