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Post by marisd on Apr 20, 2021 10:01:24 GMT
Hello everyone, I've never thought of writing this in public but what encouraged me is that I'm not alone suffering from it, otherwise I won't be able to write anything. I don't know when daydreaming started with me exactly,but I can say I'm suffering from it a lot, I can't complete my daily tasks like I can't even study for my exams and the problem is I don't feel anything like I don't feel guilty for not studying and wasting my time, I can waste time more than any one in this world, like I really have masters in wasting time and procrastinating. I'm fed up, I can't do anything about it anymore, I hope anybody can help me and the problem is that no any person knows about my daydreaming and I can't say to anybody.
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Post by geryto on May 14, 2021 10:35:22 GMT
Hi there,
I have absolutely the same problem, although I manage to do my work somehow although sometimes I just sit at my desk and get lost in my imaginary world.
I would really like to stop daydreaming or to do it less time because I feel I am losing so much from it.
Please, if anyone has managed it give us some advises and technics.
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Post by Theaxe on May 15, 2021 22:33:44 GMT
Re-route your daily activities so that the typical times you find yourself daydreaming are not there anymore. Allow daydreams to "go stale" so they don't seem so interesting anymore. I know that for me, night-time is pretty bad before I go to bed, so I began reading more, playing Candy Crush, watching a movie, doing a crossword, doing a Sudoku puzzle, or whatever it took so I didn't grab my MP3 player and listen to music and lose myself in it, or just daydream without it. The trick for me was to eventually fill these gaps of time with something to do, even if it seemed like a waste of time.
Eventually you make these things into new routines. When you block the ability to daydream, eventually it becomes something you do less of, and find less of a desire to get it back.
Also, I use daydreaming to feel better if I'm feeling down. Another way to combat this is to read a book or an article on what's bothering you. So if someone for example had terrible things to say to me about not having children, I will read an article on why being child-free is a positive thing to lift my mood, rather than dive into a daydream. The mind needs a place to go to, and if you can calmly control what direction you're going to go with your thoughts, the more that will become a new, productive routine for you.
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Post by tiya on May 17, 2021 7:46:30 GMT
Alright, so not long ago I found out what maladaptive daydreaming is. I've been struggling with MD for about a year now, I live in an alternate reality. The urge to daydream and slip into my alternate world is overwhelming. The worst part about having MD all this time was that I couldn't explain it to anyone since I didn't even know what was I suffering from. I struggle to complete tasks, and "completing tasks" doesn't just mean completing my homework or studying, I can't even finish a movie in one go because I'll pause it imagine the same scenes in my head in my alt-reality then watch the rest oh the film. I feel like this illness keeps me from doing my tasks, It's really hard for me to focus and get shit done because as I said before the urge to daydream is uncontrollable.
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Post by august on May 28, 2021 17:59:02 GMT
I started daydreaming due to friends excluding me. This was about 2 years ago. I started imagining w has set it would be like to have healthy friendships. After a while, life happened and MD is the way I would escape reality. I did that for all of 2020. Now that things are opening up and schools are starting, it is hard for me to focus on one task. It’s to the point where even in my daydreaming if a particular scene gets boring I completely switch stories and start over with my daydreams. I want to quit bc as a junior in highschool I know I need to fix this before I run out of time. Ever since I was little I wanted to go t up NYU but bc of MD it has caused a huge strain on my future.
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Post by granger on Jun 2, 2021 16:56:05 GMT
I started daydreaming due to friends excluding me. This was about 2 years ago. I started imagining w has set it would be like to have healthy friendships. After a while, life happened and MD is the way I would escape reality. I did that for all of 2020. Now that things are opening up and schools are starting, it is hard for me to focus on one task. It’s to the point where even in my daydreaming if a particular scene gets boring I completely switch stories and start over with my daydreams. I want to quit bc as a junior in highschool I know I need to fix this before I run out of time. Ever since I was little I wanted to go t up NYU but bc of MD it has caused a huge strain on my future. . Thats how it started in my case too. I would just say that md does not go away on its own. It never goes away by the way. But if we work on it, we can control the amount to a certain extent. |
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