Post by rebeccapelletiere on May 19, 2021 5:40:04 GMT
Hi everybody, I am here as a mother of a 6 year old boy, Ari, who I believe has been daydreaming since he was 4 years old. I found out about maladaptive daydreaming recently and am very to understand more since my son has been tested for every disorder so far and nothing has been diagnosed. I am looking for guidance on how to help him through this and what I should do as his mom. He spends all of his free time daydreaming, during his daydreams he runs back and forth in his room and usually makes loud noises. He seems to really enjoy his daydreams, he calls them stories. Sometimes he will explain to me what they are about if I ask. The only reason that I am worried is because he is very behind in kindergarten and cannot focus on school due to his daydreams. I am looking for advice or just stories from other people who were daydreamers as a child. Thanks for reading!
It’s important to remember that daydreaming is normal and children, especially, daydream a lot more than what we as adults would consider to be normal. Young children naturally spend a lot of time daydreaming and creating fantasy worlds and it’s completely normal. As they get older, probably about mid-elementary school (so like ages 7-9), they begin to make the shift to preferring reality over daydreams. However, even after that age, daydreaming is still normal as long as it doesn’t impact your ability to function.
If you really believe that his daydreaming is a problem, I suggest you ask him about it. Not what the content is, but why he’s daydreaming when he should be doing schoolwork. Regardless of whether he meets the diagnostic criteria for something like ADHD, there still might be things about school that are hard for him. Maybe he needs more structure (this is especially true if he’s doing virtual school because of covid), maybe his environment is simply not conducive to learning or doing homework, maybe he’s having trouble with what his teacher is asking him to do and it makes him upset so he daydreams to avoid it.
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