My 6 year old son has MD. I NEED ADVICE

Hello! Adding to this thread as the father of a 5 year old boy with a very similar pattern to that described above. Our wonderful son started daydreaming (we also call them his 'stories') when he was 3 years old. We can pinpoint the moment it started - after we let him watch his first Disney movie 'Cars'. He was utterly engrossed in the movie, reacting as if he was actually IN the movie as we watched it. Shortly after we noticed him zoning out at various times of the day. He makes delightful facial expressions, grunts/squeaks, occasionally slaps himself (playfully) on the head and often jumps around or up and down on a sofa/bed. Always smiling. After a few days he opened up that the stories were indeed about the move 'Cars' but we didn't get much more than that for months. He was very frustrated when we snapped him out of the dreams (which was quite tricky for a while, he was persistent!) and didn't like to be asked about them.

Fast forward nearly 2 years, he's almost 6 now and the stories have remained a big part of his life. He's now able to snap himself out of it immediately if we ask him, and he never drifts off if he's engaged in something else requiring intense focus (lego, drawing, writing, school tasks etc.) but in the absence of direct engagement e.g. loose social situations (school play time or free-flow, or at a friends birthday party) or at bed time or in the car, he will spend as long as he can in story-land. This was illustrated by his first school report which included the line "He has a vivid imagination and will often be seen acting out a story using actions and facial expressions. His favourite part of free flow is being allowed to enter this imaginative world for longer periods of time." When it's quiet (i.e. bed time or the middle of the night if he wakes up) the sessions can get extremely intense and last for an hour or more. You can see he is exhausted/depleted physically/emotionally when you stop him and if he hasn't been able to 'finish' the story he'll be very upset/frustrated.

As he grows up he seems to be more willing/able to articulate how it all works. Last night he told me he has a few different 'worlds' he visits and each world has different 'levels' to it. One world is from the movie Cars (still!! we literally only watched it that one time... he often asks me to remind him names of characters or what their voices are like so he can get it just right in his head), another is from a playstation videogame (Astro's playground) and another is from the movie 'Planes' (again watched once months ago). He tells me he knows the characters in his head aren't real and it seems something is taken away from the experience by sharing what's happening with others. He continues to be extremely stimulated by films/tv/videogames and gets utterly engrossed/immersed in them to the point where if bad/upsetting things happen he can hardly deal with the flood of emotions he feels. Particularly if a character is hard done by or treated unfairly, it's hard to describe just how overwhelming it can be for him.

We've also noticed his stories are enhanced enormously by certain songs he likes (sometimes part of the original stimulus movie etc or sometimes unrelated). There are 3 or 4 songs I could play that will immediately snap him into his world. He frequently asks to hear them either so he can initiate a story on the spot, or so he can get the song clearly remembered in his head so he can conjure it up later and go completely bananas in story-land. Music in general is another stimulus/trigger for him.. there is no such thing as 'background music' for this guy. If music is on he is intensely listening to it, visualizing stories, remembering and storing it for later etc.

So far in terms of dealing with it, we've made every effort not to shame him, and gently try to get him to share more with us about them. We've also asked that he doesn't do it at the dinner table and told him we prefer he does it in designated places (either his bedroom or his ThinkingChair in the playroom). If he's having a really intense/long one then I generally tell him I'd like him to stop but then allow him to go back in and 'wrap it up' because ending it early seems to be very distressful for him and he'll end up finishing it at a less appropriate time later or will just be 'out of sorts' all day.

We're also encouraging him to start writing/drawing about them and he's shown some interest in this (although no actual pen to paper yet!). His teachers are aware and we've asked they let us know if/when it interferes with his school work or relationships. So far this does not seem to be the case and we're hoping that once he's old enough to realise it 'looks a bit weird' he'll self-correct and conform by doing it less and less in social situations.

Having said that, we also worry it could get more intense or that he'll retreat from all the difficult social stuff we all go through growing up. Also he does have a tendency to do it while riding his bike or walking along... which can be genuinely dangerous. The other thing that worries me is when he's old enough to get into video-games we are going to struggle with addiction. We're preparing ourselves for this, trying to play them socially and sparingly with him but I sense they scratch the same 'itch' in him that his 'stories' do. He's also outrageously good at them for his age (give him any game for 10 minutes and he's totally mastered it).

Very interested to hear how Ari is getting on or if anyone else, either 'sufferers' themselves (although I hesitate to see it as suffering.. it looks wonderful) or parents of sufferers have any tips/strategies for parents working through this when it has developed at such an early age. Or just ideas for setting him up to be able to deal with it positively (even use it to his advantage) when he's growing up / grown up.

Thanks!