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Post by trashmagic on Sept 27, 2021 4:45:34 GMT
Hello! I am 18 years old and have been dreaming for 6 years. I want to stop or at least reduce my dreams because I feel like it wastes so much time and energy in my day. Sometimes I finish the day wondering where all the time went, and that I got nothing done. Often I put important things in my life aside so I have more time to dream, and sometimes it even gets in the way of my real-life relationships. There was a point where the dreaming got better but now I am spending more time in my dreams again. While I wish to reduce my dreaming so I can focus on my real life, at the same time I really don't want to stop. I feel so silly saying this, but I have spent years on the same characters in my head and have developed such specific plotlines that I feel  when I think about letting go. It makes me feel lonely and empty since I spent so much time invested in them. I have the urge to dream every day or else I'll feel anxious. I have tried several methods to reduce dreaming, and while they work for a little bit, I always just want to dream again really badly and I just dont want to let go of what I have created. I know I want live a fuller, more present life by reducing my dreaming, but I really, really don't want to let go. Does anyone else feel this way? Wanting to stop dreaming but fearing the feeling of letting go of them? Does anyone have any advice on how to overcome this? Thank you 
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Post by murphy on Sept 27, 2021 13:25:52 GMT
I feel the same about my daydreams. I know how hard it is to give up. I really wish I could. I don’t want to upset you but I would encourage you to try/seek help. For me MD goes back as far as I can remember and I’m now middle aged and it’s making me resent my marriage because I’m happier in my daydreams. Trust me you want better for your life than the mess I’m in now. Try to beat it while you’re young with so much potential ahead of you. 🤗
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fairytale
Active Daydreamer
 
you are not a mistake
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Post by fairytale on Sept 27, 2021 17:09:20 GMT
I don't know what to do as I am stuck in a similar loop. It gets a little better but then a something stressful happens and I go back to MDing all day long. I sometimes blame myself for not be strong enough to be able to face life rather than escaping into my DDs but DDs has been with me as long as I remember and always protected me from a lot of situations. Although I m reluctant to let go, I know I have to. You have to remember that it is just an escape mechanism and that you have a life beyond DD. Try to hold on as long as you can, if you relapse you can try again. Hope we all can overcome it
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