Post by thedolphinbaby57 on Jan 20, 2022 4:00:53 GMT
Hello Madders. It's Breanna again. I have yet another question to ask.
Does anyone feel like their paras (characters in your daydreams) or parames (daydreamed version of you) feel much more smarter than the actual you or how you are in reality? What I mean by this is that for me I noticed that I imagine a lot of things and many comebacks and ways to express myself in my daydreams then I would in real life. It makes me feel like I'm boring and uncreative and super slow when in reality. It's almost as if I'm comparing myself to.....me???
For example I had a daydream where I was helping a friend (a para) where someone said something to them and my response to help them was "My life does not revolve around you it only revolves around the sun." It's what my parame said, but I know that when I'm in reality I probably wouldn't be able to think such a comeback for me or a friend. It just feels like my parame is more smarter and more outspoken than me and it I feel like I would have a hard time trying to replicate that in reality. It feels like if I take any ideas from my paras or parame then it won't feel "original" to say and feel like I'm stealing it from someone else. As if my parame is some different individual person. I don't want to mix my daydreams with the real world as I feel like I will get confused and not know what's what anymore. Sometimes I even think I may get memories or dreams from my sleep mixed up with my daydreams.
Does anyone relate or at least semi knows what I'm trying to say? If so please let me know and I greatly appreciate it! Till next time! :D
Hi, yes definitely! My parame is the ultimate version of me. She's prettier, smarter, more successful, funnier... And like you said, when I'm back to being just plain old me, I sometimes feel inadequate and wish to be more like her. I do realize that I just have to accept myself for who I am but on the other hand I think it's not bad to strive to be better.
So I don't feel like I'm stealing from her, I feel more as if I'm learning from her. She's confident (unlike me), so why wouldn't I try to be more like her?
I have, in the past, changed my hair or style to match my parame(s). But I never felt like the lines between reality and daydreaming have blurred in any way. I just use some elements of my daydreams to spice up my reality. For instance, if my daydream at that time takes place in India, I will explore the culture, play a lot of their traditional music and cook Indian food for my friends. They're used to see me go through fases, , they don't seem to care either way. I guess everyone does, I know a lot of people who obsess over certain things for periods of time. Only difference is that my obsessive fases are linked to my daydreaming.