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Post by yesitsmae on Feb 25, 2022 9:27:10 GMT
Hey
I’m sure other people get this, but I feel such an emotional attachment to my MD person that I feel I can’t live without them or let them go.
I also wish that I knew this person in real life, and that we were close.
Even though it causes me distress and I do actually want to end, I feel like this one is special and I want to hold onto them.
Anyone else feel the same way?
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Post by Sam on Feb 25, 2022 15:55:39 GMT
Absolutely! Letting go of your daydream relationships with people is, for all intents and purposes, like breaking up/ending a friendship with someone IRL.
You could probably think of it as a kind of parasocial relationship, especially if the people in your daydreams actually exist IRL (as opposed to being completely fictional).
Even if you work to treat your MD, that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to let go of those characters. The goal of treatment is to reestablish a healthy balance between daydreams and real life, not to completely stop daydreaming. Everyone daydreams and it’s an important function of the brain. It’s just when it interferes with your ability to function that it becomes maladaptive.
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Post by yesitsmae on Mar 5, 2022 13:59:18 GMT
Absolutely! Letting go of your daydream relationships with people is, for all intents and purposes, like breaking up/ending a friendship with someone IRL. You could probably think of it as a kind of parasocial relationship, especially if the people in your daydreams actually exist IRL (as opposed to being completely fictional). Even if you work to treat your MD, that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to let go of those characters. The goal of treatment is to reestablish a healthy balance between daydreams and real life, not to completely stop daydreaming. Everyone daydreams and it’s an important function of the brain. It’s just when it interferes with your ability to function that it becomes maladaptive. You’re absolutely right! It is almost like a break up with someone in real life which can be just as painful regardless. Yes I think I can definitely call it a paradoxical relationship as this person is a real living, breathing man who has become so important to me. I’d do anything for him. Even when the MD fixation has passed, I do still think about that person now and again, but it’s at a normal, healthy level, and it’s far easier to stop  of them when needed. Does this happen to you too? |
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Post by Sam on Mar 7, 2022 15:27:29 GMT
Absolutely! Letting go of your daydream relationships with people is, for all intents and purposes, like breaking up/ending a friendship with someone IRL. You could probably think of it as a kind of parasocial relationship, especially if the people in your daydreams actually exist IRL (as opposed to being completely fictional). Even if you work to treat your MD, that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to let go of those characters. The goal of treatment is to reestablish a healthy balance between daydreams and real life, not to completely stop daydreaming. Everyone daydreams and it’s an important function of the brain. It’s just when it interferes with your ability to function that it becomes maladaptive. You’re absolutely right! It is almost like a break up with someone in real life which can be just as painful regardless. Yes I think I can definitely call it a paradoxical relationship as this person is a real living, breathing man who has become so important to me. I’d do anything for him. Even when the MD fixation has passed, I do still think about that person now and again, but it’s at a normal, healthy level, and it’s far easier to stop thinking of them when needed. Does this happen to you too? Absolutely! As your daydream characters shift importance, so does your preoccupation with the real life people who inspired them. |
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of them when needed.