Post by elioelioelio on Mar 11, 2019 0:01:24 GMT
Hey guys,
So I’ve been reading a lot of threads this eve about acceptance - either ourselves, the fact we MD, or just as the individuals that we are with individual situations.
And what i’d Like to say is that sometimes I like to think of this as going into a job interview, or playing a part except this interview is an interview for me and only I get to choose how this part is played.
What I mean to say is, maybe instead of focusing our attention on MDing being a particularly negative/ unrealistic thing that eats away at you (and I know it has for me), I think channel some positives from it.
So, when I’ve mded before I’ll have asked myself as though they’re my friends asking me - “what have you done today?”
And I’ll reply to myself and say “oh today, I woke up early, went to the gym, went to work/studied (when I was at uni) and then went out/ got an early night / did X”. Now, I have always found it so so so hard to get out of bed (sometimes depression, anxiety, heartbreak, other times genuinely just don’t wanna get up for school university or work) but I have given myself a checklist to complete these MD tasks that I have said I have completed as they aren’t too unrealistic.
I’m not setting myself too big achievements like smash a masters or eliminate my mental health problems or discover a new planet etc but I think maybe by channelling my MD persona (like I mentioned when you pretend to be the confident character in the interview because you know you need to act a way and get the job) then sometimes faking it til you make it eventually works.
This is based on my own experiences though, but I think lists or goals and achievements (even if it’s labelled “self care looked like [reading five pages for school/ waking up a bit earlier/ speaking to a friend) will make you feel a bit better because it’s something to tick off your list and will feel like you’ve accomplished something.
For international woman’s day I had a list of :
- go to the gym
- do one sketch
- do four publishing applications
- apply for work experience
- do a food shop
- take out the washing
- self care looks like reading another chapter
And I only managed to watch game of thrones and do my sketch and half an application, so when I see I have great spaces that should’ve been crossed off it stresses me out and looks like anxiety and deadlines on. A page so I’ve learnt not to make my ‘to do list’ or achievement page too unrealistic just for my own benefit and I hope somehow channeling some positive MD energg will help you, cause once or twice now my expectations have aligned with my reality and it’s a pretty explosive feeling / when you MD and you’re faced with that actual situation in real life and the outcome is better because you’re stronger than you thought or your MD self and being the best you is something I don’t have enough words for.
So I’ve been reading a lot of threads this eve about acceptance - either ourselves, the fact we MD, or just as the individuals that we are with individual situations.
And what i’d Like to say is that sometimes I like to think of this as going into a job interview, or playing a part except this interview is an interview for me and only I get to choose how this part is played.
What I mean to say is, maybe instead of focusing our attention on MDing being a particularly negative/ unrealistic thing that eats away at you (and I know it has for me), I think channel some positives from it.
So, when I’ve mded before I’ll have asked myself as though they’re my friends asking me - “what have you done today?”
And I’ll reply to myself and say “oh today, I woke up early, went to the gym, went to work/studied (when I was at uni) and then went out/ got an early night / did X”. Now, I have always found it so so so hard to get out of bed (sometimes depression, anxiety, heartbreak, other times genuinely just don’t wanna get up for school university or work) but I have given myself a checklist to complete these MD tasks that I have said I have completed as they aren’t too unrealistic.
I’m not setting myself too big achievements like smash a masters or eliminate my mental health problems or discover a new planet etc but I think maybe by channelling my MD persona (like I mentioned when you pretend to be the confident character in the interview because you know you need to act a way and get the job) then sometimes faking it til you make it eventually works.
This is based on my own experiences though, but I think lists or goals and achievements (even if it’s labelled “self care looked like [reading five pages for school/ waking up a bit earlier/ speaking to a friend) will make you feel a bit better because it’s something to tick off your list and will feel like you’ve accomplished something.
For international woman’s day I had a list of :
- go to the gym
- do one sketch
- do four publishing applications
- apply for work experience
- do a food shop
- take out the washing
- self care looks like reading another chapter
And I only managed to watch game of thrones and do my sketch and half an application, so when I see I have great spaces that should’ve been crossed off it stresses me out and looks like anxiety and deadlines on. A page so I’ve learnt not to make my ‘to do list’ or achievement page too unrealistic just for my own benefit and I hope somehow channeling some positive MD energg will help you, cause once or twice now my expectations have aligned with my reality and it’s a pretty explosive feeling / when you MD and you’re faced with that actual situation in real life and the outcome is better because you’re stronger than you thought or your MD self and being the best you is something I don’t have enough words for.
