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Post by alphabetsoup on Mar 22, 2019 4:57:43 GMT
Hi all, I’m to meet you I’m interested in reading, writing, music (listening to it, creating it, theory, and composition), and mathematics. I’ll warn you in advance that I enjoy making puns more than I should. I’ve had an active imagination for my whole life, and MD for the past 3-4 years. It’s gotten a lot worse recently. My MD usually takes up 2-3 hours per day, but on some days, I can’t do anything but daydream. While daydreaming currently interferes with my life, it's granted me temporary happiness and lasting insights I never would have had without it. Thus, I aim to answer this question: How do I manage my intake of fantasy to maximize my happiness, personal growth, and quality of life in the real world? I hope you’ll hunt for answers with me and find some of your own.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 22, 2019 12:49:56 GMT
Hi and welcome!
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Post by Dimmer on Mar 23, 2019 15:17:20 GMT
Welcome! I... I never realised that was exactly my goal until I saw it written out like that lol.
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Post by alphabetsoup on Mar 24, 2019 18:40:18 GMT
That's so cool, would you be willing to share some of your progress?
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Post by Dimmer on Mar 24, 2019 21:15:57 GMT
That's so cool, would you be willing to share some of your progress? A lot of it feels like back-sliding, lol. As I've cut down on MD all the issues it was hiding have come to the surface. I've found I also have to work on some anxiety to even have a shot in hell. Big things I did were: Cut out music. I just daydream without it, but music has always had a way of keeping me immersed, so it's helped even though I can just DD without it. Where I might have gone for six hours now maybe I only go for two. Sleep. I've put a lot of effort into keeping a regular sleep schedule. I have NEVER slept well and could lay there half awake DDing until the sun came up. I've been good about getting my body used to a routine and have been taking sleep aids to help myself along and that's going much better now. Helps to not slip off if you, you know, actually alert during the day. Memory/productivity tracking. I have a terrible memory and have been working on keeping track of things, tried a bunch of methods, some work better than others. Bullet journals work fantastic but I can't seem to get into the habit of keeping them. And apps don't help me much, analog seems to be the way to go. A fridge whiteboard has been good, I have two, a calendar for all the days and a blank one for notes. My SO has also been helpful and texts me reminders. Talking. Being active in these communities has really helped a lot. When I type stuff out like this it helps me organize my thoughts, plus there's just the benefit of having people around who 'get it'. You can probably get the same effect from regular journaling but in this case, unlike the memory issue, digital has been easier for me than analog. Being social. I've also put a lot of effort into building and maintaining friendships. Where I would have turned down invitations before now I accept them, even if I don't really want to, in an attempt to rebuild a social network. I only have a few friends but the effort to keep in touch and visit seems to really be working towards that end. Also has the added benefit of being able to do new things, my anxiety stops me from trying out new things, but with a friend leading the way it's much easier. Finding a hobby. This one was hard for me, I have had a million hobbies but none of them maintain my interest and stick around. It took a long time to find something, and it turned out to be you guys. My 'hobby' is being active in these communities and moderating a few of them. I have a resource blog on Tumblr, run the discord, help here and with reddit and make little youtube videos. MD has become my hobby in a completely different way lol.
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Post by alvi on Mar 25, 2019 0:34:08 GMT
Hi, Welcome to the forum.
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Post by alphabetsoup on Mar 26, 2019 2:51:19 GMT
Thank you for all your warm welcomes!
Thank you, Dimmer, for taking the time to share everything you've found. I can relate to a lot of your points, and hope to try out the rest. Please don't be discouraged by feeling like you're back-sliding! It's always harder to make things go uphill than downhill, and I'm sure everything you've done to control your MD is getting you closer to where you want to be.
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