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Post by Sam on May 1, 2019 17:28:04 GMT
New accountability/goals thread, yay! I was a little behind in reminding everyone to post their final updates in the April thread, but I still want to get the thread for May created so that people can talk about their goals for this month. As always, no goal is too small or inconsequential. The point of this thread is to share any goals that you might have and to give and receive encouragement from others who are on this forum.
I've been so busy in the past few days with millions of small tasks that my brain is basically short circuiting (ie why I forgot about the April thread), so I'm going to keep my goals for this month as simple as possible.
First and foremost is definitely working on balancing my life properly. I have a predisposition for focusing on one thing and completely ignoring everything else, even when the other things are just as important as the thing that I'm focusing on. Now that I'm really trying to move into a more adult-like life, teaching myself to properly balance my life so that I get everything done without burning myself out is essential.
I want to work on creating more crochet projects. I'm in the process of building up a stock of things so that I can open an etsy store--hopefully within the next few months.
I'd like to finish revising the trigger warning lists for the English books that my ex-high school teaches. I started the project way back in September of 2018 and it would be nice to finish them before the end of their school year (I promised to have them done before the start of the next school year, but I kind of want to get them done before then so that the teachers can do whatever they need to before they share the lists with the students). I have all of the lists already created, but I still have three more to revise (I reread the book so that I can check to make sure I didn't miss anything the first time--I usually miss things).
I want to keep working on exposure therapy and mindfulness. I've been doing an exceptional job so far, and I finally feel like I might be making some progress in doing the things that I want to while still feeling the anxiety. Doing therapy activities for at least 4 hours a day is exhausting and obviously time consuming, but I think its worth it. Plus, once I get to a certain point, I should be able to lower that time because all I'll have to do is maintain the progress that I've already made. But I'm not at that point yet.
I think that's about it for real goals that I have for myself this month. As you can see, its quite a hefty undertaking. Between all of this and also trying to prepare myself to hopefully start a degree program in the fall, I'm busier than I have been in years (this is also why I haven't been online as much as usual). I'm exhausted pretty much constantly, but I hope in my heart that all of this work is going to pay off.
I'd love to hear everyone else's goals for this month. Remember, they don't have to be big like the ones I set for myself. If you do end up setting larger goals, make sure that they're ones that you're able to split up into smaller pieces. Its much easier to accomplish things when they don't seem so large and potentially unreachable.
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Post by kate101 on May 1, 2019 23:02:35 GMT
My goals for May: To spend a half hour each day cleaning in a different room in my house; to get to my new job on time; to ask my dtr to help me clean out our basement (necessary due to landlords coming); to make sure I finish my weekly college assignments; to pray daily, either in the morning or evening.
I need to push myself & it's worked the last few days!
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hanaiyah
New Daydreamer
Self-Acceptance is the way forward!
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Post by hanaiyah on May 2, 2019 17:13:12 GMT
My goal - To complete my TEFL course Got so much to do yikes!
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Post by justin808 on May 2, 2019 22:43:24 GMT
My goal for may is to keep my room clean and to stay on top of my laundry (maybe if I'm not surrounded by clutter my mind will be less cluttered as well, I also want to work on a cocktail program for my new bar, and read more instead of just daydreaming.
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Post by Sam on May 3, 2019 17:47:49 GMT
I like the idea of the accountability threads you've got here but, these just don't seem to work for me. I guess my goal for now is to get some people who can drag me out of my head irl. Maybe we can see about setting up local events around the world :) That's okay, not everyone's brain works the same way :) Those are both really good ideas. You could also try (if you haven't already) putting reminders/alarms on your phone or colorful post-its around your house to help you remind yourself to get out of your head and to center yourself in the present moment. But enlisting other people to help you is, overall, probably better because its an interactive experience. It's not something that goes off once and then you can ignore or snooze it and stay stuck in your head. It would be cool to do local events. I'm not sure if, with the number of people currently on the forum, it would work right now, but maybe in a few months our numbers will be large enough that something like that would actually work.
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Post by katie on May 3, 2019 19:37:23 GMT
My goal this month is to get rid of old clothes and ones that are too big for me as I am losing weight I hate to look at them whenever I want something to wear.Also keep losing the weight of course not to get back into old habits which I am sort of doing.
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Post by alvi on May 5, 2019 10:59:47 GMT
My goals are pretty similar to last month.
Exercise daily. If I can't go for walks then I really must find something to do when at home.
Declutter! I have so much stuff. Things like clothing I haven't worn in years really need to go.
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Post by jujubear on May 5, 2019 17:58:40 GMT
Well for me it is mainly trying to be a more social person. Try to interact with fellow human beings. After all, isolation sucks. So I will be on this forum and hopefully reading and posting stuff more often as a first step.
Add to that I'd like to stop my annoying habit to overthink every single little thing
Oh and also work really hard and try not to fail this engineering degree.
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Post by Sam on May 13, 2019 17:13:00 GMT
Its not quite halfway through the month yet but does anyone have any updates on their goals for May?
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Post by Sam on May 14, 2019 17:01:09 GMT
Its not quite halfway through the month yet but does anyone have any updates on their goals for May? No... and, I think I'm getting further from them. I am a mess right now. That sucks. I completely understand that feeling. Obviously its important to try to stick to your goals, but not keeping up with them for whatever reason isn't the end of the world. Everyone goes through rough patches and some people's rough patches are rougher and longer than other's. Try to be as kind to yourself as possible.
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Post by Sam on May 20, 2019 0:08:44 GMT
I have a little bit of extra time right now so I'm going to give a (hopefully) quick update on how my goals are going, which will hopefully motivate others to update us on their goals.
I think I'm doing... okay... at balancing my life. I'm still overwhelmed more times than not, but that's unsurprising given how much I'm doing now in comparison to say, 6 months ago. I have about 4 big projects that I'm working on right now (therapy, etsy store, trigger warning lists, and school) and I've had some success in choosing 2 things at the beginning of the day to focus on. So basically I choose two of the four projects to focus on and while I can do things from the other projects, its not my focus so its not a big deal if I don't finish anything from that project that day. It doesn't completely eliminate the overwhelming feeling of having too much to do and not enough time, but it does help.
I've been crocheting pretty much every day and I've tried a few new patterns. They turned out nice, but I'm not going to post pictures here because I don't like the sexual comments that I get from people on imgur. Once I get the etsy store set up I'll post the link and then people can see them there. But that won't be until at least August. I was hoping to open July 1st, but then I discovered that I need, like, business licenses and stuff, and I can't get those until after I get an ID and I don't have an appointment at the DMV until July 11th. I was pretty disappointed about having to delay, but I'm going to use this time to do some market research and to build up more of a stock.
I'm currently working on the last book for the trigger warning lists. Well, last for the school. I'm planning to do others on my own after, but this is the last one that I have currently on my plate.
I've been doing pretty good with exposure therapy and mindfulness. Last weekend (technically Friday the 10th) I helped my mom with her garage sale. I didn't have to, but I ended up spending 8 hours outside, talking to people. I even let some family friends who came by hug me (I'm scared of germs and don't really let people hug me anymore). Those 8 hours were pretty much entirely exposure therapy. It was tough, but I did exceptionally well. I've also still been doing the car ride exposures. I've had a little trouble the past few days (my body was gearing up for a migraine and I was more sensitive to motion than I have been), but overall I've been doing well. I need to cut down on the "official" time that I'm spending doing mindfulness and imaginal exposure exercises and shift more toward practicing in my daily life. By that I mean doing real life exposures (like using utensils that my brain says aren't clean and not sanitizing myself whenever I touch things that came from somewhere not in the house) and applying the mindfulness principles as I'm going through my other tasks. That way I'm still getting my essential practice without taking up so much extra of my precious time.
Wow this ended up way longer than I meant it to.
Also, I feel like I maybe turned people off from posting here because my goals are so large and I know that a lot of people don't have big goals. That wasn't my intention. If I don't have bigger goals that have an end date, I have a hard time actually completing the smaller goals that make up the big goal because I'll just keep putting them off ad infinitum. But its totally okay if you have smaller goals, or even no real defined goals at all. Everyone is different and our brains and how they deal with goals and tasks are different too. Some people, like me, need bigger goals to keep themselves on track. Other people are okay with smaller goals. And still others don't really need goals at all. It all comes down to finding what works for you. Feel free to post your updates on your goals for the month in this thread. We have... 12 days left in the month, so there's still plenty of time.
And wow again. I somehow managed to make this even longer. I apologize. My lack of socialization has made it so that when I start talking (or typing in this case), I can literally talk for hours. No joke, sometimes my parents come home and I spend 2 hours straight talking. So if you've noticed that I tend to be a bit... long winded... here on the forum, that is why.
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Post by Sam on May 25, 2019 17:49:27 GMT
About a week left this month! Any updates?
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Post by sarah on May 25, 2019 20:04:29 GMT
Hello Im a cosplayer so im got a prydonian archademy robes from doctor who costume that needs to be completed for the armageddon expo on the 1st of june (new zealands version of comicon) so far the robe parts complete aswell as the scarf. Ive just got the overcape to do aswell as mayby a broach. Im also working on completing a journal with autobiographies of all my fictional characters from my zoids dd world.
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Post by Sam on May 29, 2019 20:39:37 GMT
A little over 2 days left this month! Anyone have any last updates?
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Post by katie on May 29, 2019 23:07:43 GMT
My goals are going well and things are looking up didn't set certain goals on this but have been more sociable with people and getting out more. My goals for the rest of the month is to get cleaning my place as it is a state I hate been in my room as I want to daydream or go on social media I enjoy cleaning while listening to music at times but that my biggest trigger so going to try not to give into it .
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