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Post by fellowmder on May 2, 2019 10:25:32 GMT
So, i will tell this as a story. if anyone is interested continue to read.. I were taking my drawing classes for an upcoming entrance examination. suddenly everyone started rushing through the corridors. they all started talking that our high school grades had come over the internet. i wasn't able to draw anything for the next two hours. I weren't in a position to check my marks. My phone was dead and i didn't remember my application number. i was so numb at that moment. i were only able to recall all that madness i did back in school, all that effing daydreaming. i so damn wanted to cry for wasting away my time.i literally felt on edge. i was sure i was going to fail one of my exams.it was so frustrating that i left for home early. At that moment, to be frank i didn't keep up any expectations. i mean, by no expectations - nothing, seriously nothing. i told myself that i would hardly care whether i pass or fail. so, my first question- considering my situation where two years back(before MDing grew in my life) i would yearn to get full marks, now standing in this position where i expect nothing at all from myself; hAS ThIS EVER hAPPENED TO YOU? STORY CONTINUES.... because it were frustrating, during my entire ride back home i recklessly daydreamed. When i reached home, my brother had already checked my result and sent it to my mom and dad. I got 88 %. to be frank, i don't know if it is less or fine or good. my friend called me just at that time. she got a 90 and another one got 94 (she got full marks in 2 subs- it was practically her dream). Still, i just feel mixed emotions. my brother says that i shall be spanked by my mom. i mean half of this result will justify the college i would get into. Yet these marks to me aren't frustrating and just seem meaningless. have anyone of you felt the loss of reason like me? Like not realizing whether it is important to you or not?
i don't know why i never had or is having any strong reason to do anything. anything that is killing me on the inside is the loss of reason to live. has anyone felt it?
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Post by trex56 on May 2, 2019 13:49:35 GMT
I can relate to what you're talking about. I've spent years of my life focusing on my daydreams and not caring about real world achievements. I barely did any of the homework back when I was in school and was numb to everything, including grades.
I'm guessing you're in high school and about to get into college? High school was super hard for me because of mental illness that wasn't diagnosed. I applied for a college that would be easy to get into and didn't really have any plans about what to study or what to do after college.
Honestly if I could go back and do it differently I would ask for help. I didn't realize it at the time, but not expecting anything of yourself, not caring about grades, not making plans for the future, etc...these are signs that you might need help. I think there is so much pressure to do good in school that it's easier to just turn it off and use MD or something else to escape it. But ultimately it's something that can hurt your future. I really think you should talk to your parents about what you're going through and that maybe you need help with navigating school and making plans for your future.
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Post by fellowmder on May 2, 2019 15:51:21 GMT
Thanks for writing back. I am glad to find someone to share this with. Yet i cannot follow your advice about talking to my parents about it. Cause i did try talking to my friend about it and she well hardly understood this. Still i feel good sharing it with someone. it means a lot to me.
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Post by trex56 on May 2, 2019 16:24:54 GMT
It's good that you can share this here and talk about it with your friend, even if she didn't understand.... I wasn't talking about telling your parents about MD because I don't think anyone who doesn't have MD could really understand, but I was talking about how you should say something about having a hard time caring about schools and grades. I think it's important because it's something that can really impact your future. And you can just say that it's an issue and that you need help without mentioning MD
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Post by Dimmer on May 7, 2019 13:22:37 GMT
Yes, I feel like that sometimes. It's like my brain shuts down and ignores the issue so I don't have to deal with the anxiety, and I daydream a lot too. Sounds like maybe stress or anxiety is a trigger for you like it is for me.
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Post by fellowmder on May 9, 2019 1:28:45 GMT
Yes, I feel like that sometimes. It's like my brain shuts down and ignores the issue so I don't have to deal with the anxiety, and I daydream a lot too. Sounds like maybe stress or anxiety is a trigger for you like it is for me. It is true. Just yesterday my teacher told me about the faults in my drawing. When it came to drawing our homework i were so stressed out that i daydreamed almost like up till this next morning or something. Now i am taking a leave from my class in order to work upon my flaws
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