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Post by claire on May 23, 2019 15:52:45 GMT
I didn't even realise MD existed until today, until I put the question to Google, 'how do I stop living my life in daydream'. I suffer from depression and my husband died 4.5 years ago, which I still haven't recovered from. I am a carer for my autistic son and I have a daughter.
I should be working, looking after the house and myself, and studying my Open University course, but I waste days just sat in my chair daydreaming. My daydreams are so real to me, I find myself reacting and talking out loud to them.
How do I stop myself from doing this? Does anyone have any ideas? I have even (briefly) thought that suicide might be the only answer. I know that is not right.
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Post by trex56 on May 23, 2019 20:20:35 GMT
Hello Claire, welcome to the forum! I'm sorry that you're in this situation...Is seeing help from a mental health professional an option for you? What about friends or relatives? You're mentioning depression and suicide and it sounds like addressing those things should be a priority. You matter and you have children who need you, and it's important to put those issues first if it's a severe problem. I don't know if stopping the daydreams is possible, but I think the first step is to find a balance between the daydreams and getting things done. I've seen some useful ideas in this thread: daydreaminblue.freeforums.net/thread/98/tips-strategies-ideas-keep-controlAnd in this thread about habit reversal: daydreaminblue.freeforums.net/thread/268/habit-reversal-training-maladaptive-daydreamingI also think it's really useful to figure out why you developed MDD. Are you replacing something missing from your life with the daydreams? Do you use the daydreams to cope with something? I don't think it's something that can be 'cured' and completely go away, but there are some things you can do to manage it and make things better!
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Post by Dimmer on May 23, 2019 22:14:21 GMT
Trex gave you some good stuff, also going to add on ith this daydreamresearch.wixsite.com/md-research Its a link to the "MD research lab" site, has links to studies and academtic papers and some additional resources.
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