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Post by cloudreamer7 on Aug 20, 2019 5:58:00 GMT
Hi all
Ive been maladaptive daydreaming since I was very young, I only just recently discovered there was a term for it, or that there were other people that do it. Makes me feel less crazy. I have severe attention deficit which im pretty sure is what causes this.....the thing I daydream about the most out of anything at all is made up future scenarios with people, namely people I want to impress, such as crushes. I obssess over hypothetical situations in which I am perfect and never akward or cringy like I am in real life. It can be anything from just general conversations to crazy irrational things like saving them or doing things beyond my actual ability to impress them. I pace back and forth when I MD and lose touch with reality. I have to be careful when Im in public because people will wonder why Im randomly making a facial expression or mouthing words, or wandering aimlessly. Because of my ADHD Im often unable to control when I slip into an episode, yet even when I do feel it coming on or catch myself in one, It's very addicting and I have an extremely difficult time stopping. It keeps me from getting things done, and often I'll stay up far later than I want to because I have a such a hard time forcing my brain to stop and calm down. I often use this as a coping mechanism for missing people that I can't contact or see a lot. Hightened emotion very much triggers it, especially when Im listening to music, but it happens all the time in general. It's good to be able to get this out in a place where I'm understood, I don't know anyone who wouldnt judge me hardcore for something like this other than someone who does the same. Thanks for listening!
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Post by bee on Aug 21, 2019 8:19:24 GMT
Hi cloudreamer7!
welcome, nice to meet you!
Have you tried to switch you dd to a completely fictional setting? Without people you know and care about? I had a dd-phase when I did a lot of "rescue and impress" and it messed up a lot of real connections with people. It got so bad that I couldn't tell if my feeling towards certain persons are based on my dd or reality. When I switched to book-style dd it got better, of course it's still about me but it didn't interfere with rl so much. And this calmed things down a bit and I was much more able to push my dd back.
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Post by Sam on Aug 21, 2019 18:55:56 GMT
I agree with bee that trying to switch your daydreams to a more fictional setting can be beneficial in it not impacting your real life relationships as much. Obviously, if you prefer your daydreams over real life, you'll still have some interference, but it does make interacting with people in real life easier because then you aren't trying to parse out what is them and what is daydream-them.
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Post by cloudreamer7 on Jul 14, 2020 16:56:53 GMT
Hi cloudreamer7! welcome, nice to meet you! Have you tried to switch you dd to a completely fictional setting? Without people you know and care about? I had a dd-phase when I did a lot of "rescue and impress" and it messed up a lot of real connections with people. It got so bad that I couldn't tell if my feeling towards certain persons are based on my dd or reality. When I switched to book-style dd it got better, of course it's still about me but it didn't interfere with rl so much. And this calmed things down a bit and I was much more able to push my dd back. , I've never thought of doing that! I dont know if that would work out or not but I'm definitely going to give it a try, thank you!
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Post by avvmmra on Oct 24, 2020 20:27:23 GMT
I have read your post and what you tell just happens to me too since I was very child. I feel very identified with you and I would like talk to you if you want.
Consider me a friend.
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