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Post by katie on Oct 3, 2019 21:13:02 GMT
This thread is for any triggers that you want to work on trying not to give into. It will be your support thread when you are having a hard time doing so and need to talk through how you are feeling. There is no pressure in taking part in this thread and its for when you are ready to work one one of your triggers to help ease your Madd.
I would like you to keep in my that certain triggers may be more difficult than others and need to be taking with care for your well being and stress levels.for example social phobia which leads to loneliness and isolation. We are always here for anyone in this support group you should never feel that there is no one to turn to. Maybe best to start on smaller ones.
I think its important for us to identify how we are feeling and why these triggers have occurred. Keep in mind that you might feel like the urge is getting stronger and its taking over but its to try and see if certain triggers can be dealt with.
There is no right way of dealing with our triggers and how we feel when we are in our daydreams so this is trial and error. If you can't help but give into your daydreams it does not mean we are weak the main thing is that when you are ready and want to put your mind to working on one there is going to be ups and down.
My trigger I am going to work on over the next while will be my stress trigger as when I have to have control over certain situations which is not healthy I always give into my daydreams. I am going to do this by doing meditation and writing down how I feel and why that is also if it is out of my control or can I sort what is happening.
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Post by Sam on Oct 4, 2019 1:33:22 GMT
Stress is one of my main triggers. I don't always daydream when I'm stressed, but that does generally seem to be my default response to stress.
The other main one that bothers me is media. News, tv, movies, books, anything that is emotional or adrenaline-causing, and I'm lost. I think that part of the reason why its so much of a trigger is that I don't think I ever properly learned how to deal with my emotions when I was a child. My parents weren't cold or distant or anything and its not like I was punished for expressing my emotions, but it still feels like I never learned how to deal with them because no one ever really expressed strong or unpleasant emotions in front of me.
The aversion to strong emotions and stress things are probably related. Because the maladaptive portion of my daydreaming usually involves me pacing up and down the stairs, I think that not wanting to deal with strong emotions sets off my fight or flight mechanism, and since you can't really run from what's inside you, I settle for feeling like I'm running by daydreaming and actually physically moving my body to satisfy my brain's urge to run and hide.
The fix for both of those is probably to learn to properly deal with what I'm feeling. Even if I have strong emotions in my daydreams, I'm really just hiding and running away from the ones that I was experiencing in real life. Because of the running away and hiding, I have a habit of bottling up all of my emotions until its physically impossible to hide from them anymore and they explode out of me in uncontrollable rage or tears (usually every few months, or if I'm lucky, years). Super fun. But I suppose that researching how to process your emotions would probably be a good first step for me.
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Post by katie on Oct 4, 2019 18:35:39 GMT
Stress is one of my main triggers. I don't always daydream when I'm stressed, but that does generally seem to be my default response to stress. The other main one that bothers me is media. News, tv, movies, books, anything that is emotional or adrenaline-causing, and I'm lost. I think that part of the reason why its so much of a trigger is that I don't think I ever properly learned how to deal with my emotions when I was a child. My parents weren't cold or distant or anything and its not like I was punished for expressing my emotions, but it still feels like I never learned how to deal with them because no one ever really expressed strong or unpleasant emotions in front of me. The aversion to strong emotions and stress things are probably related. Because the maladaptive portion of my daydreaming usually involves me pacing up and down the stairs, I think that not wanting to deal with strong emotions sets off my fight or flight mechanism, and since you can't really run from what's inside you, I settle for feeling like I'm running by daydreaming and actually physically moving my body to satisfy my brain's urge to run and hide. The fix for both of those is probably to learn to properly deal with what I'm feeling. Even if I have strong emotions in my daydreams, I'm really just hiding and running away from the ones that I was experiencing in real life. Because of the running away and hiding, I have a habit of bottling up all of my emotions until its physically impossible to hide from them anymore and they explode out of me in uncontrollable rage or tears (usually every few months, or if I'm lucky, years). Super fun. But I suppose that researching how to process your emotions would probably be a good first step for me. Sorry only getting back to you now Sam yeah the main thing I think its that your not putting too much pressure on yourself or you might feel it doesn't work and its not worth the stress and the way you feel when the urge comes down strong on you. Plus incorporating meditation and having a journal there for you to write up the situation that brought on a trigger for you and how your felt before the trigger started. I was told by my therapist today to keep a journal to help me process my negative emotions.
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Post by Sam on Oct 4, 2019 19:04:10 GMT
katie Yeah, the journal thing is usually a good idea. I actually have a password protected document on my laptop that I use as a journal. Its really nice being able to express myself that way. I found this article last night about understanding emotions and how to process them.
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Post by katie on Oct 4, 2019 19:09:11 GMT
This is a helpful link kind of had this talk with my therapist today. Thanks Sam.
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Post by katie on Oct 13, 2019 3:27:24 GMT
My triggers have been easing down but I know I still have a few that I need to work on. My rewarding trigger is strong at the moment and so is the stress one. Its like when I sort out what is stressing me I want to reward myself by daydreaming.
I think I am going to have to think of ways to reward myself like thinking of all the positive outcomes of dealing with my stress and even anxiety in a healthy way.
Music is still the number one trigger but I do things now when I listen to it and keep my mind focused on cleaning or something while listening to it its sort makes a difference its more trail and error.
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