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Post by potterhead on Oct 11, 2019 0:16:02 GMT
My characters don't always stay in my daydreams. Sometimes I feel like they are with me even when I am not daydreaming, like they are standing right next to me and they can see everything that I'm doing. I know that they are not actually there and it's not like I see them or anything, I just kind of feel like they are there, like there is someone else in the room. When I was a kid I even used to talk to them, kind of like an imaginary friend, but now it's just like they are with me all the time. Sometimes I also act differently when I feel like my characters are with me, like I act like you would when you're around other people, even when I am alone. Does anyone else have this or does anyone know what to do about this? *sorry for my English, it's not my first language
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Post by katie on Oct 11, 2019 3:35:19 GMT
My characters don't always stay in my daydreams. Sometimes I feel like they are with me even when I am not daydreaming, like they are standing right next to me and they can see everything that I'm doing. I know that they are not actually there and it's not like I see them or anything, I just kind of feel like they are there, like there is someone else in the room. When I was a kid I even used to talk to them, kind of like an imaginary friend, but now it's just like they are with me all the time. Sometimes I also act differently when I feel like my characters are with me, like I act like you would when you're around other people, even when I am alone. Does anyone else have this or does anyone know what to do about this? *sorry for my English, it's not my first language Do you feel there presents most of the time or is it when you get a certain feeling or taughts, in a way they are our imaginary friends. At times my inner voices will talk to me strangely as if its my character telling me what she thinks of a certain situation. I can't really answer you question but its something I will look more into.
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Post by bee on Oct 11, 2019 8:30:25 GMT
My characters don't always stay in my daydreams. Sometimes I feel like they are with me even when I am not daydreaming, like they are standing right next to me and they can see everything that I'm doing. I know that they are not actually there and it's not like I see them or anything, I just kind of feel like they are there, like there is someone else in the room. When I was a kid I even used to talk to them, kind of like an imaginary friend, but now it's just like they are with me all the time. Sometimes I also act differently when I feel like my characters are with me, like I act like you would when you're around other people, even when I am alone. Does anyone else have this or does anyone know what to do about this? *sorry for my English, it's not my first language Sometimes I talk to my characters about real-life-things but only in my daydreams. Sometimes I wonder what one of my characters would say to something happening in real life at the moment and then I have a very short daydream about that. But I don't have the feeling my characters are part of real life, so I think what you are talking about is different. Hmm. Are you in any kind of treatment for your depression and/or your social anxiety?
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Post by fellowmder on Oct 11, 2019 17:17:31 GMT
Well, maybe I am taking this too lightly or something but i have faced a very similar situation. It is more like you inact them, you want those people to be around you to crack your loneliness and then you start your talks with them and start acting the way you would like them to see you as. This especially happens when i am lonely. It is probably i want them to accept my presence somehow, so I feel them being there when i am walking, watching my every good or suspicious act. It is something so terrible of a habit that i aint myself at all during the entire day. If this is how you feel then you have a companion!
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Post by potterhead on Oct 12, 2019 0:20:49 GMT
My characters don't always stay in my daydreams. Sometimes I feel like they are with me even when I am not daydreaming, like they are standing right next to me and they can see everything that I'm doing. I know that they are not actually there and it's not like I see them or anything, I just kind of feel like they are there, like there is someone else in the room. When I was a kid I even used to talk to them, kind of like an imaginary friend, but now it's just like they are with me all the time. Sometimes I also act differently when I feel like my characters are with me, like I act like you would when you're around other people, even when I am alone. Does anyone else have this or does anyone know what to do about this? *sorry for my English, it's not my first language Do you feel there presents most of the time or is it when you get a certain feeling or taughts, in a way they are our imaginary friends. At times my inner voices will talk to me strangely as if its my character telling me what she thinks of a certain situation. I can't really answer you question but its something I will look more into. Thank you I feel their presence almost all the time, no matter what I'm doing or how I am feeling. They don't even talk to me or anything, they just watch everything I'm doing.
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Post by potterhead on Oct 12, 2019 0:29:19 GMT
My characters don't always stay in my daydreams. Sometimes I feel like they are with me even when I am not daydreaming, like they are standing right next to me and they can see everything that I'm doing. I know that they are not actually there and it's not like I see them or anything, I just kind of feel like they are there, like there is someone else in the room. When I was a kid I even used to talk to them, kind of like an imaginary friend, but now it's just like they are with me all the time. Sometimes I also act differently when I feel like my characters are with me, like I act like you would when you're around other people, even when I am alone. Does anyone else have this or does anyone know what to do about this? *sorry for my English, it's not my first language Sometimes I talk to my characters about real-life-things but only in my daydreams. Sometimes I wonder what one of my characters would say to something happening in real life at the moment and then I have a very short daydream about that. But I don't have the feeling my characters are part of real life, so I think what you are talking about is different. Hmm. Are you in any kind of treatment for your depression and/or your social anxiety? Thank you for your answer I'm seeing a therapist for my anxiety, but I haven't really talked to her about my daydreams yet, I just find it very hard to talk about it in real life.
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Post by potterhead on Oct 12, 2019 0:38:57 GMT
Well, maybe I am taking this too lightly or something but i have faced a very similar situation. It is more like you inact them, you want those people to be around you to crack your loneliness and then you start your talks with them and start acting the way you would like them to see you as. This especially happens when i am lonely. It is probably i want them to accept my presence somehow, so I feel them being there when i am walking, watching my every good or suspicious act. It is something so terrible of a habit that i aint myself at all during the entire day. If this is how you feel then you have a companion! I feel like that too! Sometimes I kind of enjoy it when they are with me because it makes me feel less lonely and I think feeling lonely is the reason why I am doing this but sometimes I just really want to be alone and then I just want them gone so I can be myself and I don't have to worry about what they think of me.
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Post by bee on Oct 12, 2019 13:12:39 GMT
Sometimes I talk to my characters about real-life-things but only in my daydreams. Sometimes I wonder what one of my characters would say to something happening in real life at the moment and then I have a very short daydream about that. But I don't have the feeling my characters are part of real life, so I think what you are talking about is different. Hmm. Are you in any kind of treatment for your depression and/or your social anxiety? Thank you for your answer :) I'm seeing a therapist for my anxiety, but I haven't really talked to her about my daydreams yet, I just find it very hard to talk about it in real life. Oh yes, it is a tough subject to talk about, even in therapy, isn't it? We have at least one thread about this here somewhere. I know a few dreamer here who did manage to talk about it and they are very relieved they did it. Maybe you could try it, too? You wrote that you "worry about what they think of me". That sounds like a connection with your anxiety, so it wouldn't be something completely new to talk about with your therapist, don't you think?
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Post by Marcydel on Oct 12, 2019 22:07:05 GMT
Yes, I think I first-handedly know what you’re talking about, to a degree. For example, when I’m upset, I imagine one of my characters sitting next to me, understanding me. Or I’ll casually imagine them in the same room going about their business, or they’ll be walking next to me and we’ll just be chatting and bantering (of course I’m not actually talking out loud). I think it’s sort of a self-soothing mechanism for me, though I’m what exactly I’m trying to soothe myself from because there are plenty of people around me in real life that notice me.
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Post by potterhead on Oct 14, 2019 18:03:41 GMT
Thank you for your answer I'm seeing a therapist for my anxiety, but I haven't really talked to her about my daydreams yet, I just find it very hard to talk about it in real life. Oh yes, it is a tough subject to talk about, even in therapy, isn't it? We have at least one thread about this here somewhere. I know a few dreamer here who did manage to talk about it and they are very relieved they did it. Maybe you could try it, too? You wrote that you "worry about what they think of me". That sounds like a connection with your anxiety, so it wouldn't be something completely new to talk about with your therapist, don't you think? I never thought about it this way, but maybe it really has something to do with my anxiety in a way. I don't know if I'm ready to open up to my therapist, but I think I will try.
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Post by katie on Oct 15, 2019 0:33:48 GMT
I opened up to my therapist and my mental health consultant about it is if you need help on where to start when you think you are ready let me know..
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Post by bee on Oct 15, 2019 15:55:55 GMT
Oh yes, it is a tough subject to talk about, even in therapy, isn't it? We have at least one thread about this here somewhere. I know a few dreamer here who did manage to talk about it and they are very relieved they did it. Maybe you could try it, too? You wrote that you "worry about what they think of me". That sounds like a connection with your anxiety, so it wouldn't be something completely new to talk about with your therapist, don't you think? I never thought about it this way, but maybe it really has something to do with my anxiety in a way. I don't know if I'm ready to open up to my therapist, but I think I will try. Great, give it a try! Keep us updated on your progress, only if you want to, of course. And, as katie already said, if you need help, just let us know.
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Post by potterhead on Dec 17, 2019 10:58:44 GMT
Hey, I'm sorry I haven't posted anything for a while, I just had a lot on my mind. I tried to talk to my therapist about my daydreams a few weeks ago. She was very open and interested, but I feel like she didn't totally understand it. She kept talking about how daydreaming and imagining things was a very healthy way to cope with my problems and I was very surprised about that, I mean I don't see my daydreaming as a completely bad thing because it does help me sometimes, I just didn't think she would be so positive about it.
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Post by Sam on Dec 19, 2019 17:59:24 GMT
Hey, I'm sorry I haven't posted anything for a while, I just had a lot on my mind. I tried to talk to my therapist about my daydreams a few weeks ago. She was very open and interested, but I feel like she didn't totally understand it. She kept talking about how daydreaming and imagining things was a very healthy way to cope with my problems and I was very surprised about that, I mean I don't see my daydreaming as a completely bad thing because it does help me sometimes, I just didn't think she would be so positive about it. For the general population, daydreaming can be used as a healthy coping mechanism. Most people have a habit of daydreaming when they're stressed. For us though, that healthy coping mechanism has grown out of control and is no longer healthy--hence the "maladaptive" label. It sounds like she perhaps doesn't understand exactly how it negatively impacts your life.
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Post by granger on Dec 21, 2019 9:09:39 GMT
My characters don't always stay in my daydreams. Sometimes I feel like they are with me even when I am not daydreaming, like they are standing right next to me and they can see everything that I'm doing. I know that they are not actually there and it's not like I see them or anything, I just kind of feel like they are there, like there is someone else in the room. When I was a kid I even used to talk to them, kind of like an imaginary friend, but now it's just like they are with me all the time. Sometimes I also act differently when I feel like my characters are with me, like I act like you would when you're around other people, even when I am alone. Does anyone else have this or does anyone know what to do about this? *sorry for my English, it's not my first language I had this when I was a kid but it went away itself as I grew up. I have not felt such presence of imaginary character in a long time now. Sorry but I don't know what you can do about it.
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