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Post by Sam on Dec 1, 2019 19:44:46 GMT
Damn its December already. It feels like it should still be June. Anyways, its a new month so its time for a new thread. As always, this thread is just a place where you can post about any goals you might have and give/receive encouragement in achieving them. There was a question yesterday about whether these threads can be used for daily goals, and the answer is absolutely. I just make a new one each month so that we don't have one thread that's a billion pages long.
For me, this month is going to be focused mainly on finishing up my shop stuff because I'm supposed to open it on the 1st of January. The biggest thing I have left is taking product photos and writing out my shop policies and stuff. I'd also like to get into the eye doctor again to pick new frames and hopefully get the right lenses this time (they cut the lenses incorrectly with this last prescription so I had to put one of my old lenses back in so that I could actually see). I'd like to do more socialization and to do some more math review as well.
I'd love to hear everyone else's goals!
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Post by kondiao on Dec 2, 2019 16:06:47 GMT
My goals?
I have a plan to go to Laos from Thailand in order to apply there for a new visa for Thailand.
They have made it all so complicated and chaotic that I am afraid even if I take care of all the details and get all the documents right I could be refused and rejected.
I have a goal to stop letting my anger take me away from being in the present. I have learned in these months that I have been involved with DDiB and researching MaDD online that in my case it is the things that make me angry that are "triggers' for me to start DDing - about fkcing people up who have hurt me, disrespected me, humiliated me in the past.
I have a goal to be happy with my g/f over December/January travelling and hope that our relationship really blossoms.
The main goal is to be Present all the time to the best of my ability, so that I might be able to cope with the problems that come up and not go off into fantasies. That is the main goal for me all the time and it is not getting easier.
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Post by Herro on Dec 2, 2019 18:09:02 GMT
No more blogging. That's all for this month.
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Post by alvi on Dec 5, 2019 23:39:51 GMT
Catch up with homework which I'm already neglecting.
Try and get medication sorted as health is getting worse not better.
Look for a therapist to start seeing in the new year. Be picky with the one I choose and look around to find a good fit. I've had some really weird experiences with therapy and therapists in the past and I don't want a repeat of all of that.
Stop seeing my ex.
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Post by lazyperson on Dec 8, 2019 4:27:36 GMT
it is my goal to win in the regional competition. hopefully, i will win. i will comeback here if i can.
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Post by philippe on Dec 8, 2019 14:52:22 GMT
My goal list this month: - Have a lunch with my dad - Practice (everyday) mindfulness meditation + "cohérence cardiaque" meditation, I'm  how to translate it in english. It's a forced breathing meditation where you have to breath 6 times per minute. - Avoid pornography. It may be stupid but I won't die if I try it few weeks. I hope to gain some energy and feel less depressed, even if the proofs it can have any effect are quite light. - Continue to clean my appartement, it's still messy - Continue to work on my "buying an appartment" project - Continue to work out - Continue to practice my english skills. It may help me to get another job some day. - Concerning my professionnal skills, on my freetime, I will focus on working with "cracking the coding interview" next weeks. |
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Post by Sam on Dec 19, 2019 18:19:10 GMT
I basically have no conception of time anymore. It feels like it should still be July, there is absolutely no way the end of the entire decade is in 2 weeks.
Anyways, for updates: I finished all of my product photos on Tuesday (except for like 2 photos that I need to reshoot). I'm currently working on editing them. I got to the eye doctor on the 7th and ordered new glasses, so hopefully they'll be coming in soon. I've been doing really good with the math review, though I've put it on the backburner the past week or so to focus on shop stuff. I haven't been doing a whole lot of socializing because of how busy I've been, but I'm hoping to be able to watch the Harry Potter marathon this weekend with one of my friends (virtually, of course, but still).
Does anyone else have any updates or new goals? As I mentioned, we have like 2 weeks left this month.
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Post by philippe on Dec 20, 2019 20:18:46 GMT
- Have a lunch with my dad ===> done - Practice (everyday) mindfulness meditation + "cohérence cardiaque" meditation, I'm how to translate it in english. It's a forced breathing meditation where you have to breath 6 times per minute. ===> I haven't abandoned, however I'm not serious enough. I should do more. - Avoid pornography. It may be stupid but I won't die if I try it few weeks. I hope to gain some energy and feel less depressed, even if the proofs it can have any effect are quite light. ===> it's ok but I don't see much benefits. - Continue to clean my appartement, it's still messy ===> I have done nothing - Continue to work on my "buying an appartment" project ===> I have done nothing, plus my mother slows me down and my dad push me and add criteria. - Continue to work out ===> ok - Continue to practice my english skills. It may help me to get another job some day. ===> I can do a lot more. - Concerning my professionnal skills, on my freetime, I will focus on working with "cracking the coding interview" next weeks. ===> I have done nothing this month Additionaly, I have drunk too much alcohol. It was not on my goal list to keep my alcohol consumption low, however it's a bad thing. |
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Post by alvi on Dec 20, 2019 21:22:29 GMT
I am also not managing to meet any of my goals or remain positive and productive. Started smoking again for the first time in about 8 years. Flat is messy. Just haven't been able to motivate myself to do anything.
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Post by Sam on Dec 20, 2019 21:34:39 GMT
I am also not managing to meet any of my goals or remain positive and productive. Started smoking again for the first time in about 8 years. Flat is messy. Just haven't been able to motivate myself to do anything. I can understand this. Motivation has been a huge issue for me recently. Is there anything you could give yourself as rewards for doing things? Its preferable to not use daydreaming as a reward, but if it works and gets you to do stuff it would be better than nothing. |
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Post by Sam on Dec 30, 2019 17:38:45 GMT
We've got about 2 days left this month (and this year... and this decade... *queue more panic*), does anyone have any final updates for this months thread before I start a new one on Wednesday?
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Post by bee on Dec 31, 2019 11:12:12 GMT
We've got about 2 days left this month (and this year... and this decade... *queue more panic*), does anyone have any final updates for this months thread before I start a new one on Wednesday? Oh, I thought about the end-of-the-year-stuff, like "what have I achieved" and so on, but I forgot about the decade... Hmm, I must come up with a plan for the next decade. ;-) |
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Post by Sam on Jan 1, 2020 0:52:51 GMT
It is somehow the last day of the month (and the decade!) already. I have no concept of time anymore.
Anyways, here's my final update for this month:
I spent most of the month working on shop stuff. I took and edited product photos, I wrote up shop info sections, I was fairly active on the shop Instagram account, and as of right now, all I have left to do to open the shop is to input my credit card info, but I might wait until tomorrow. I would prefer to just do it right now, but my anxiety is going "well, your business license and sellers permit aren't active until tomorrow, so its not legal." My anxiety is very rude.
I did manage to get to the eye doctor to pick out new frames, but they forgot the blue light protection in my lenses again (and I really need it), so I still don't have my new glasses.
I did quite a bit of math review, despite putting it on the back burner in favor of getting my shop ready to open.
As for socialization, I didn't do as much as I'd hoped, but I still socialized for like 7 hours on Christmas (with relatively little anxiety, yay!) and yesterday I watched a movie with my friend over facetime. The movie thing was super fun so we'll try to do it again when we have time.
At some point I'll take a break, considering how hard I've been pushing myself this year, but given how stressful this coming month will be, it seems unlikely to happen any time soon.
I'd like to take a moment to say that I'm really proud of everyone who's taken part in these threads over the past 11 months. I know some of you feel disappointed or discouraged about not meeting your goals, but I'm proud of you just for setting goals or even thinking about setting goals. Trying to accomplish things when you have MD can be incredibly difficult and you should celebrate any steps you take, no matter how small.
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Post by alvi on Jan 1, 2020 19:50:39 GMT
It is somehow the last day of the month (and the decade!) already. I have no concept of time anymore. I think when you don't go out very often and have no daily routine it is so hard to keep track of the days. I have to check my phone to find out now. I really didn't do well at the end of the year. I started off ok at the beginning of 2019 but I think things went downhill pretty quickly after I realised that even when I try and do more it rarely has the positive pay off that I had hoped it would. Going into 2020 I think I will keep my goals small and stick with a do little and often approach rather than have things that I'm unlikely to manage. Well done everyone who was able to achieve some of their goals in 2019 and good luck to everyone who will be setting them for 2020. |
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Post by thehopelessromantic on Jan 2, 2020 2:45:22 GMT
alvi I feel like my life has gone downhill this year, too. Good riddance to 2019. Good luck out there this new year.
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how to translate it in english. It's a forced breathing meditation where you have to breath 6 times per minute.
