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Post by tosaki03 on Mar 26, 2021 16:41:11 GMT
Hi Everyone, Hope you're all well. I just thought I'd do an update to gather my thoughts.
I've come to realise I have a love hate relationship with MD. Hell, I think we all do! Sometimes I'll MD whilst I'm on my phone in front of family, and I can't stop myself from smiling. I know, it's really embarassing. I have to mentally tell myself to stop, and that this isn't the time to do it. Other times, I long to MD. I might have had an argument or just feel rubbish in general, so I want to comfort myself by MD. But I always find it is harder to make yourself MD when you want it. When it comes naturally, the plots and stories are so clear and everything flows. When I try to control the content of my MD too much, it all just gets to the point where I lose focus and it doesn't go well. I think there are a lot of triggers that can set us off to MD. It's not a good thing, but oh well. There's not much one can do.
Leave a comment below x
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Post by Sam on Mar 26, 2021 17:09:53 GMT
You're right that many of us have a love-hate relationship with MD. As much as we understand that it interferes with our ability to function, we can't deny that it's also been incredibly helpful to us before and often we love our characters and wouldn't want to get rid of them.
MD is usually an unhealthy coping mechanism and though it is unhealthy, it is still a coping mechanism and no matter how harmful it is, it's also helped us to cope and as such, its difficult for us to let it go (remember when I say "let it go" I simply mean the maladaptive portion of daydreaming that interferes with our ability to function, not daydreaming as a whole).
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Post by tosaki03 on Mar 26, 2021 17:54:21 GMT
Sam I absolutely agree with everything you have written. I also think that the only harmful thing to this condition is the maladaptive portion. I sometimes think about what I would do if I would need to let go of 'them'. But I hate the thought of it. I don't know what else would occupy my mind when I need it the most!
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Post by Sam on Mar 30, 2021 16:48:53 GMT
Sam I absolutely agree with everything you have written. I also think that the only harmful thing to this condition is the maladaptive portion. I sometimes think about what I would do if I would need to let go of 'them'. But I hate the thought of it. I don't know what else would occupy my mind when I need it the most! And you definitely don't have to let go of them if you don't have to! Generally, I would consider the goal of treatment to be to regain a balance between daydreams and real life. This balance is something that non-MDers have naturally. You'd still be able to daydream about your characters and worlds, but you'd also be able to function normally. You wouldn't be constantly putting off real life experiences and responsibilities to spend time daydreaming.
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