Post by mdisslowingmedown on Jan 20, 2020 17:43:18 GMT
Hello
So I hope I circle back to this site soon and read more posts and hopefully find more tips. It's Monday and I lost about 50 percent of my weekend in my head. Daydreaming, like most others I see on here...which gives me some solace. Where there is a label or diagnosis there is normally some ideas for recovery. Recovery from something I am only just today truly understanding is holding me back from my relationships and really impacting my job, which I used to be awesome at. I've lost a good bulk of today in my head as well, but I did learn about the term MD and registered for this forum to try get a handle on what seems to be a growing problem for me. I'm going to let today's MD research and forum time count as productivity for today so I don't feel quite as guilty, because guilt is a huge plague I feel from this problem. Here's to trying to find solutions!
About me and my goals
I'm 40. I'm an IT nerd with a wide variety of passions. I've had a hard life, but not harder than many. I've always known things could be worse, even when I was at my worst. I've experienced a lot of love and support and count my blessings and gifts all the time. Face to face counseling and self help reading has saved my life so I recommend anyone going through hard times to seek help. We can't always solve our problems alone. Daydreaming got me through a lot of hard times in the past, so I'm glad I have it. But it's keeping me from what's important now. I need to get it under control before I mess up this lovely life I worked so hard to create. These are my main problems and goals:
- Much of my daydreaming occurs after dealing w/emotionally draining family things. After they occur I go over and over them in my head. Replay them or react to them how I wish I could have instead of how I did. Or I plan out how I'm going to react to them in the future. Once in awhile the planning fantasies are helpful. But at this point in my life, I don't need them as much as I used to. I have the experience to handle the hard things as they come without needing to mull them over constantly. The overthinking causes me pain for longer than needed, hinders my productivity and often makes me feel blue. I need to stop doing this altogether.
- I like some daydreaming. The ones that are literal fantasies and not the above b/c it helps me figure out what I want out of life, helps brainstorm how to do things, helps with creativity and there is an element of fun to it. If I could just control it and reduce it, it would be a great balance.
- I'd really love to be able to harness my daydreams to storytelling. Because I love to write. But most of the time when I sit down to write, I stare at the screen and fantasize instead of typing. B/c the daydream satisfies quickly and I can do anything in a matter of seconds, whereas writing means I have to slow down the fantasy. Just approaching it like a journal can be helpful sometimes b/c I'm a fast typist...but I'd really like to put the thoughts into a format that tells an interesting story. Writing a story is difficult and slow whereas daydreaming is "like taking a shot of heroin". Gets you high quick fast. Read that analogy while reading up on MD today and definitely hit home.
Thanks for the forum. I hope to be back soon and hoping to get a few hours of productivity out of the rest of today. Best of luck to everyone out there also trying to wake up!
So I hope I circle back to this site soon and read more posts and hopefully find more tips. It's Monday and I lost about 50 percent of my weekend in my head. Daydreaming, like most others I see on here...which gives me some solace. Where there is a label or diagnosis there is normally some ideas for recovery. Recovery from something I am only just today truly understanding is holding me back from my relationships and really impacting my job, which I used to be awesome at. I've lost a good bulk of today in my head as well, but I did learn about the term MD and registered for this forum to try get a handle on what seems to be a growing problem for me. I'm going to let today's MD research and forum time count as productivity for today so I don't feel quite as guilty, because guilt is a huge plague I feel from this problem. Here's to trying to find solutions!
About me and my goals
I'm 40. I'm an IT nerd with a wide variety of passions. I've had a hard life, but not harder than many. I've always known things could be worse, even when I was at my worst. I've experienced a lot of love and support and count my blessings and gifts all the time. Face to face counseling and self help reading has saved my life so I recommend anyone going through hard times to seek help. We can't always solve our problems alone. Daydreaming got me through a lot of hard times in the past, so I'm glad I have it. But it's keeping me from what's important now. I need to get it under control before I mess up this lovely life I worked so hard to create. These are my main problems and goals:
- Much of my daydreaming occurs after dealing w/emotionally draining family things. After they occur I go over and over them in my head. Replay them or react to them how I wish I could have instead of how I did. Or I plan out how I'm going to react to them in the future. Once in awhile the planning fantasies are helpful. But at this point in my life, I don't need them as much as I used to. I have the experience to handle the hard things as they come without needing to mull them over constantly. The overthinking causes me pain for longer than needed, hinders my productivity and often makes me feel blue. I need to stop doing this altogether.
- I like some daydreaming. The ones that are literal fantasies and not the above b/c it helps me figure out what I want out of life, helps brainstorm how to do things, helps with creativity and there is an element of fun to it. If I could just control it and reduce it, it would be a great balance.
- I'd really love to be able to harness my daydreams to storytelling. Because I love to write. But most of the time when I sit down to write, I stare at the screen and fantasize instead of typing. B/c the daydream satisfies quickly and I can do anything in a matter of seconds, whereas writing means I have to slow down the fantasy. Just approaching it like a journal can be helpful sometimes b/c I'm a fast typist...but I'd really like to put the thoughts into a format that tells an interesting story. Writing a story is difficult and slow whereas daydreaming is "like taking a shot of heroin". Gets you high quick fast. Read that analogy while reading up on MD today and definitely hit home.
Thanks for the forum. I hope to be back soon and hoping to get a few hours of productivity out of the rest of today. Best of luck to everyone out there also trying to wake up!
