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Post by darlene on Jan 25, 2020 2:37:41 GMT
I was having a daydream since I was 13 or so but I realized that it was maladaptive just now through the internet. So since I was a kid I am having these daydreams about guys. I dont actually have a crush to those people. It's just that their traits fits to the plot and scenario I have on my mind. What makes it more complicated is when I start to daydream a persol I became obssesed to him, years after years I start to daydream them kissing me. Whenver I daydream, I focus on one person and forget about anyone else and would think of a scenario or a plot. It is like I need to reach certain kind of fixation and get bored to that man and then I will find another one. Quite disturbing because of the men that are actually from reality. And I feel quite guilty for doing it. And I wanted it to stop.
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aj
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Post by aj on Jan 25, 2020 16:59:41 GMT
I’ve experienced the same thing for many years. It’s easy to feel guilty about it, but know that you’re not alone and it’s not your fault. I don’t know how to make it go away completely, but spending more time socializing with real people and limiting stress can help a lot.
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Post by bunnylove on Jan 25, 2020 21:21:28 GMT
Hi Darlene, you are definitely not alone I have done this too since I was a teenager. The only time I move on from one guy to another in my daydreams is when I sort of find a replacement and will think about them for major parts of my day.
Please don't feel guilty. I believe for myself I feel like this is my way of distracting myself from loneliness and filling a void in my life, which I know isn't healthy. Aj is right socializing in the real world can really help to at least cut back on daydreaming.
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