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Post by Sam on Feb 1, 2020 18:18:02 GMT
Hi, everyone! Here's the accountability/goals thread for February. As always, this is a place for you to share your goals, no matter how big or small, and to give and receive encouragement in completing them. While I do create a new thread each month and a lot of people have monthly goals, its absolutely okay for you to post about shorter or longer term goals.
What are everyone's goals?
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Post by Sam on Feb 1, 2020 18:19:02 GMT
I think that, for me, February is going to be more about internal goals rather than external goals.
I obviously still need to get to the appointments I have scheduled and socializing more is always a good goal for me, but since this month is objectively less busy than the next few months will be, I want to work on my internal goals more. The most important of which are probably stress management and coping with the idea of getting older. I turn 20 in March, and its something that I've been freaking out about every time I think about it for months. 20 seems like officially "not-a-kid-anymore," and being as isolated as I've been, its sometimes hard for me to understand that I'm not 13 anymore. Either way, I need to work on how I feel about it because March is already going to be incredibly stressful and I don't need to add my "holy shit I wasted all of my teen years" panic on top of it.
Oh, and I should probably try to find a therapist willing to do teletherapy. I'm hoping that my last one will, since I already know her. She said last year that since CBT didn't help me and I wanted to focus on ACT for my anxiety, I should find another therapist who specializes in that, but I've recently come to the conclusion that I have a lot of non-anxiety related stuff that I need to work through and it'll be easier with help. So yeah, I also need to contact her to see if she'll be willing to help me. Yay more appointments.
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Post by philippe on Feb 1, 2020 22:14:56 GMT
1: working on abandoning false hopes, on a daily basis. For exemple if I daydream 30 minutes about being a MMA (mixed martials arts) champion, I should spend 30 minutes to think about I would never be a MMA champion and in fact would even never practice MMA for various reasons. It would a sort of "fact" meditation in addition to the meditation toward bad feelings and others mindfullness meditations. 2: try to deserve my salary by doing my best during my working hours. 3: Visit appartments 4: subscribe to a gym instead of doing home workout. 5: plan a short trip to somewhere. Maybe amsterdam.
NEW 10/02/2020 ==> 6: Stop drinking alcohol from 10/02/2020 to 01/03/2020 to compensate overdrinking last week.
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Post by alvi on Feb 5, 2020 18:39:28 GMT
Oh, and I should probably try to find a therapist willing to do teletherapy. I'm hoping that my last one will, since I already know her. She said last year that since CBT didn't help me and I wanted to focus on ACT for my anxiety, I should find another therapist who specializes in that, but I've recently come to the conclusion that I have a lot of non-anxiety related stuff that I need to work through and it'll be easier with help. So yeah, I also need to contact her to see if she'll be willing to help me. Yay more appointments. Could you see if there are a few therapist that will do assessments over skype or something first so you can try a few different people and see if there is a better fit for you? 1. Sign up for a craft workshop. 2. Walk more. I've stopped going because its been cold but that is a bit of a weak excuse not to go out, I own hats and gloves so its not like I would freeze! 3. Start to sell things again. I was actually making pretty good money from it but had given up due to the effort of posting and people coming to collect which again is a pretty weak excuse not to do something that was beneficial to my life. 4. Attend at least one thing a week that forces me into social situations. Local talks, classes or whatever just make sure its something that forces me to be around people and out of my comfort zone.
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Post by slove on Feb 12, 2020 17:44:04 GMT
I am new to this whole thing, I will be 47 soon and I have never heard of MD until today, stumbled upon it searching for somthing not really related. I have to guess if i had a goal it would be related to learning more and reading the experiences of others (I somehow thought I was unique). This is somthing that has been with me my whole life although as I aged it has become more integrated and less maladaptive, in my subjective opinion anyhow. Well its goid to be hear, hello all.
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Post by Sam on Feb 22, 2020 17:56:37 GMT
We've got about a week left this month, does anyone have any updates or new goals?
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Post by alvi on Feb 22, 2020 19:06:43 GMT
I've managed to sign up for a craft workshop and attend regular social talks and I have found a group that I may join, I'd just need to find a way to actually get there first as its a little further away from home then the one I already go to. I haven't made much effort on the exercise part but I have someone to go swimming with and have arranged to go in a few weeks.
Still haven't managed as much as I would like to but I guess progress is progress no matter how small.
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Post by philippe on Feb 22, 2020 20:43:16 GMT
This month, it's very hard for me to achieve goals. I should focus on the most essentials ones.
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Post by alvi on Feb 28, 2020 15:19:50 GMT
I attended the craft workshop which was so badly run and the class leader didn't seem to know what she was doing but in some ways that actually made it a little funny. I will book another in March.
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Post by Sam on Feb 28, 2020 17:03:45 GMT
I attended the craft workshop which was so badly run and the class leader didn't seem to know what she was doing but in some ways that actually made it a little funny. I will book another in March. Nice! What kind of craft workshop was it?
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Post by alvi on Feb 28, 2020 19:31:20 GMT
I attended the craft workshop which was so badly run and the class leader didn't seem to know what she was doing but in some ways that actually made it a little funny. I will book another in March. Nice! What kind of craft workshop was it? It was a drawing one. I wasn't very good and hardly anyone turned up but never mind. I'll keep trying. Lately my anxiety attacks are become more frequent so I need to try and find some kind of activity that will distract me even if its only a little bit.
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Post by Sam on Mar 1, 2020 22:54:37 GMT
I think that, for me, February is going to be more about internal goals rather than external goals. I obviously still need to get to the appointments I have scheduled and socializing more is always a good goal for me, but since this month is objectively less busy than the next few months will be, I want to work on my internal goals more. The most important of which are probably stress management and coping with the idea of getting older. I turn 20 in March, and its something that I've been freaking out about every time I think about it for months. 20 seems like officially "not-a-kid-anymore," and being as isolated as I've been, its sometimes hard for me to understand that I'm not 13 anymore. Either way, I need to work on how I feel about it because March is already going to be incredibly stressful and I don't need to add my "holy shit I wasted all of my teen years" panic on top of it. Oh, and I should probably try to find a therapist willing to do teletherapy. I'm hoping that my last one will, since I already know her. She said last year that since CBT didn't help me and I wanted to focus on ACT for my anxiety, I should find another therapist who specializes in that, but I've recently come to the conclusion that I have a lot of non-anxiety related stuff that I need to work through and it'll be easier with help. So yeah, I also need to contact her to see if she'll be willing to help me. Yay more appointments. I don't think I did that great on my goals this month. I honestly can't really remember much of what I did. I did do my appointments (minus one that had to be rescheduled because my doctor was sick). I made a bunch of phone calls, something that would have been near impossible like 3 months ago. I did quite a bit of socializing with friends too and it's definitely getting easier. The whole internal goals thing didn't go so well. I've been really busy and constantly restless and I've just been ignoring that my birthday's coming up. However, someone I know mentioned thinking about my birthday as "leveling up" instead of "getting older" and for some reason that makes me freak out less, so that's good. I did not end up contacting my last therapist. As I said, I've been really busy and stressed and not particularly interested in adding more things to my plate. February basically didn't exist. I'm used to my perception of time being messed up but for some reason, it's even worse than usual this month. It's literally like my brain just deleted all of my memory files of what happened this month. So that's fun.
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