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Post by cameronthadreamer98 on Feb 21, 2020 6:11:31 GMT
Now this coincides with the last post I made about not relating to people my age but my next question, has anyone ever treated you like you were dumb or less than because you don’t catch on to things they talk about. Here’s a backstory... I’ve never felt intelligent. That’s one of the things about myself that I hate most. It’s also a trait that my daydreamed self has. When I talk to people, people treat me like o don’t understand things. Sometimes even simple things and then when I saying something “smart” they congratulate me or are surprised and it makes me even more insecure especially when I talk to people. Now again I’m sorry for the rambling it’s just, you guys are the only people I trust fully when it comes to this and these are things that I could never say to any of my friends or anyone else outside of here. But yeah it’s been on my mind for awhile and it’s just something that really bothers me. I think to myself, maybe I would be more intelligent if I actually was able to pay attention to things but my daydreaming was and still is out of control. School is difficult and talking to others as well. Let me know what you guys think.
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Post by legendarydarkknight on Feb 22, 2020 10:48:25 GMT
The way I see it, you need a certain level of intelligence that you can't use effectively to start and continue a whole different World inside your head. So your intelligence is probably 'above' average. The problem that stems from MD is that it basically wastes your intelligence inside the World(s) you build, thus not leaving a lot to act on the outside World which causes a slow understanding and poor communication skills. Most of your (our) problems are a lack of focus due to our minds being CONSTANTLY somewhere else; even when we're doing something we're interested in (which are not lectures or Daily talks). So, try and find the areas you think you're good at (you definitely have some, considering you could Express yourself so clearly here) and try to improve your focus by focusing on them. Once you start to see the improvement on yourself, you'll feel like you're on a tide that you can ride on, as it'll build your self-esteem from pretty much scratch and most importantly make you HAPPY in real World; something we all lack. And seeing you CAN do good on what you like should help you doing better in areas you feel like you should do better on.
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Post by Deleted on Apr 18, 2020 20:54:50 GMT
Now this coincides with the last post I made about not relating to people my age but my next question, has anyone ever treated you like you were dumb or less than because you don’t catch on to things they talk about. Here’s a backstory... I’ve never felt intelligent. That’s one of the things about myself that I hate most. It’s also a trait that my daydreamed self has. When I talk to people, people treat me like o don’t understand things. Sometimes even simple things and then when I saying something “smart” they congratulate me or are surprised and it makes me even more insecure especially when I talk to people. Now again I’m sorry for the rambling it’s just, you guys are the only people I trust fully when it comes to this and these are things that I could never say to any of my friends or anyone else outside of here. But yeah it’s been on my mind for awhile and it’s just something that really bothers me. I think to myself, maybe I would be more intelligent if I actually was able to pay attention to things but my daydreaming was and still is out of control. School is difficult and talking to others as well. Let me know what you guys think. I have actually experienced some of these things, so I know what you mean. People usually think it's "cute" or "funny" that I have a hard time paying attention when someone is talking for a while. When I do pay attention, I ask a lot of questions. I like to know about things and how they work. I also like to clear out any doubt about things in conversation when I am not exactly sure what someone is referencing because they are unclear. People usually think I don't understand/have never heard of it before. When I do state say something, people are often surprised that I am intelligent. This can be frustrating, but it has never made me doubt my intelligence. As I understand it, intelligence is something that can be built on. People aren't born with a set level intelligence, contrary to popular belief (if you are wondering about this I recommend looking up brain plasticity). Other than that, I agree with Legendarydarkknight in that you probably are intelligent. You just need something that holds your interest. I usually feel intelligent and have the least problems with dd-ing when I am solving a problem or answering a question in a topic that interests me. |
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Post by bunnylove on Apr 19, 2020 19:38:26 GMT
Hi cameronthadreamer98 I completely understand what you are going through. I can be the same, I can easily space out around other people and it can make it difficult sometimes. I think sometimes when I do participate especially at work as I am naturally quiet as well, people are surprised that I am actually not stupid. I always found school difficult my daydreaming was always bad because I hated being there and was bullied so I needed my dd to escape. I do regret not doing better at school and felt stupid after I left. That was until I started college and studied psychology. It was a subject that really drew me in and was the first time I felt  about learning. I could focus on my work and daydream less as I had something positive to focus on. I agree with Legendarydarkknight and denisealuqah that you need to find something which holds your interest. Also you say you feel like you don't relate to people your own age, this has always been me too. I know this can be difficult but please remember to be proud of who you are and it's OK to have different interests. I'm now in my 30's and I look back and I am so glad that I didn't follow the crowd and the friends I made like me for who I am. |
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about learning. I could focus on my work and daydream less as I had something positive to focus on.