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Post by Bom Bom on Mar 5, 2020 19:06:27 GMT
Hello everyone! I’m Liz, or you can call me by my online alias Bom Bom. I’ve been a maladaptive daydreamer since I was a kid, I don’t remember when or how it started, but it’s haunted me into adulthood (I’m 21 now.)
I was getting better at managing my daydreams, but for some reason, they’ve recently gotten really bad. I don’t want to do anything else all day but daydream… and I know that's not good. I feel guilty looking back and realizing I spent the whole day in another world.
I need to find ways to lessen their impact because as it is now, my life in my daydreams seem more important to me than real life. The trouble is, I love my daydreams… I’m addicted to them. I came here in hopes to find ways to manage them better so I can concentrate on my real life, which is extremely hard for me. If anyone has any advice or methods to lessen the amount of time spent daydreaming I’d really appreciate it.
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Post by Sam on Mar 5, 2020 21:02:38 GMT
Welcome to the forum Liz!
Different people find different things to be effective, but meditation is usually a good bet. Additionally, I usually recommend figuring out why you're daydreaming. Are you using it as a coping mechanism? If so, finding other, healthier coping skills would be beneficial.
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Post by Bom Bom on Mar 5, 2020 21:40:29 GMT
Welcome to the forum Liz! Different people find different things to be effective, but meditation is usually a good bet. Additionally, I usually recommend figuring out why you're daydreaming. Are you using it as a coping mechanism? If so, finding other, healthier coping skills would be beneficial. Thank you! I'm honestly not entirely sure why I daydream, I just do. I prefer the paracosm I created over the real world, and honestly the characters I've made for it are like family to me and I like to spend time with them. I really care for that world and the characters there, so I'd never want to give up daydreaming entirely, but I would like to have a good balance between them and real life. I don't feel comfortable with my real life or my real body, so I use daydreaming as an escape from that. I like to meditate sometimes, though I had no idea it could actually help manage MDD. Are there specific types of meditation that tend to help more with it? I'd like to give it a try!
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Post by Sam on Mar 5, 2020 22:09:12 GMT
Welcome to the forum Liz! Different people find different things to be effective, but meditation is usually a good bet. Additionally, I usually recommend figuring out why you're daydreaming. Are you using it as a coping mechanism? If so, finding other, healthier coping skills would be beneficial. Thank you! I'm honestly not entirely sure why I daydream, I just do. I prefer the paracosm I created over the real world, and honestly the characters I've made for it are like family to me and I like to spend time with them. I really care for that world and the characters there, so I'd never want to give up daydreaming entirely, but I would like to have a good balance between them and real life. I don't feel comfortable with my real life or my real body, so I use daydreaming as an escape from that. I like to meditate sometimes, though I had no idea it could actually help manage MDD. Are there specific types of meditation that tend to help more with it? I'd like to give it a try! Perhaps you're feeling lonely in your real life. Stopping daydreaming completely isn't really possible, since everyone daydreams. So your goal of achieving a balance is definitely a good one. If you don't feel comfortable with your real life or your real body, maybe you should work on that. Everyone deserves to feel comfortable in the life that they live and if you were to feel more comfortable, it might reduce your urge to daydream to escape. It doesn't have to be big stuff, just learning to feel more comfortable in small ways, like, I don't know, dressing in a way that feels more like you, even if its just in private (obviously this is just an example, it could be something completely different for you). Whatever helps. If you're constantly feeling uncomfortable about your real life and your real body, its understandable that you'd want to escape. Generally, meditation and mindfulness teach you to continually come back to the present moment. Get lost in thoughts? Gently come back to the present. Over and over. As you strengthen that ability to come back to the present, it'll become easier to use it when you find yourself daydreaming at a time when you want to be doing something else.
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