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Pers
Apr 6, 2020 1:02:47 GMT
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Post by mudb on Apr 6, 2020 1:02:47 GMT
Hi guys I'm new here just got here I'm not even sure if I'm writing this at the right place Anyways I'm 19 years old n I have this daydreaming conditions I daydream almost everyday of my life n I will be daydreaming about my life when I'm rich,my love life I will also be fantasizing about all of my crushes,my life if I was born on a wealthy family,how I would feel if I was a top learner but the problem is I can't seem to do anything productive each n everyday even when I try to study after 10 or less minutes ill6be drifting to my land of fantasizing n I dont know how I can control it I want out at the same time I'm scared of the person I am without these daydreams I believe if I was not a day dreamer I could have achieved a lot and I also would have been a top student I've been doing this ever since I could remember n I day dream about other people's partners a lot that's where I'm stuck my mind is full of boy I daydream a lot about them and how I would feel if I got someone who loves me, this thing makes me a very jealous person in my mind a dream about walking all over people n nobody is better than me and this has destroyed a lot of my relationships with people who are close to me and it makes it so hard to make friends
I need help I want out of all these things please help me
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Pers
Apr 6, 2020 15:58:43 GMT
Post by Sam on Apr 6, 2020 15:58:43 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
Daydreams about an idealized self are common among MDers. If you want to be able to concentrate for longer periods of time, I would definitely recommend mindfulness. With mindfulness, you're teaching yourself to continually come back to the present moment when your mind drifts off. So after some practice, when you're trying to study and you notice your mind drifting into daydreams, you'll be able to gently bring your attention back to the present and continue doing what it is you were doing.
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Pers
Apr 8, 2020 21:47:09 GMT
Post by alvi on Apr 8, 2020 21:47:09 GMT
Welcome to the forum!
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Pers
Apr 9, 2020 13:23:32 GMT
Post by bettabunny on Apr 9, 2020 13:23:32 GMT
Welcome. I'm glad you managed to find this place at only 19. I'm 31 and these things didn't exist when I started at 13! Mindfulness does help. Although I have not managed to 'kick it in the butt' using mindfulness. But I hope it may help you.
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