Post by Deleted on Apr 17, 2020 10:34:56 GMT
I'm new here, and very glad I found this site.
Before I started daydreaming I just loved books and any other stories. I used to read books when I was upset because it cheered me up and usually helped me think. I also used to "tell myself stories" before going to bed because it kept my mind from wandering to nightmarish thoughts that kept me from sleeping. I started daydreaming in public when my parents started pushing me to be more social (thank goodness for them). Daydreaming was my way of continuing the story while away from my books to deal with the stress of not knowing what was happening in the story and with having to be around people in general.
I transitioned from homeschooling to public school in high school, which was when my daydreaming started to get out of hand. It distracted me from the pressure of school and sports, which only made me perform worse and increased stress. Yikes. I've struggled staying present during conversations and completing tasks without getting distracted. My family has noticed that I "zone out" frequently, and often asks why I am smiling to myself. I never answer honestly, and until now I didn't even realize there were other people with the same problem.
I usually have some control over my daydreaming. Deciding not to daydream before a task/conversation is what has worked best for me in the past. Recently I have had no luck. I started college this year, and I think being away from all of my close relationships was harder than I thought. Although being around strangers makes me tired and more likely to daydream, I need people I can connect with. Now I spend most of my days daydreaming, and I have trouble wanting to do anything. There are lots of things that trigger my daydreaming, but some of the most prevalent are stress, boredom, monotonous tasks and extended socializing. Extended socializing is definitely the biggest trigger. I am completely engaged until the exhaustion hits me, and I completely tune out. I am sure I have made people feel unimportant countless times, which is why I've joined this forum. The last thing I want to do is make my friends feel like I don't care about them.
Before I started daydreaming I just loved books and any other stories. I used to read books when I was upset because it cheered me up and usually helped me think. I also used to "tell myself stories" before going to bed because it kept my mind from wandering to nightmarish thoughts that kept me from sleeping. I started daydreaming in public when my parents started pushing me to be more social (thank goodness for them). Daydreaming was my way of continuing the story while away from my books to deal with the stress of not knowing what was happening in the story and with having to be around people in general.
I transitioned from homeschooling to public school in high school, which was when my daydreaming started to get out of hand. It distracted me from the pressure of school and sports, which only made me perform worse and increased stress. Yikes. I've struggled staying present during conversations and completing tasks without getting distracted. My family has noticed that I "zone out" frequently, and often asks why I am smiling to myself. I never answer honestly, and until now I didn't even realize there were other people with the same problem.
I usually have some control over my daydreaming. Deciding not to daydream before a task/conversation is what has worked best for me in the past. Recently I have had no luck. I started college this year, and I think being away from all of my close relationships was harder than I thought. Although being around strangers makes me tired and more likely to daydream, I need people I can connect with. Now I spend most of my days daydreaming, and I have trouble wanting to do anything. There are lots of things that trigger my daydreaming, but some of the most prevalent are stress, boredom, monotonous tasks and extended socializing. Extended socializing is definitely the biggest trigger. I am completely engaged until the exhaustion hits me, and I completely tune out. I am sure I have made people feel unimportant countless times, which is why I've joined this forum. The last thing I want to do is make my friends feel like I don't care about them.
