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Post by 4leafrose on Apr 22, 2020 22:36:38 GMT
Hello! I'm  if my case counts since I have full control over whether or not I daydream.... but even if I CAN control it, I'm still addicted, so I might choose daydreaming over more important things. It isn't always a bad thing. I love daydreaming! It's so much fun and as a writer and artist I can use it to my advantage! On the other hand, I find myself getting frustrated when I'm interrupted by real life or when I can't focus on daydreaming at work. It's especially bad when I have a long weekend or in this coronavirus mess where I have to do school at home. I'll waste hours daydreaming and if I get on a roll with an exciting part of the daydream...It's really hard after that to go back to regular work/life and I go through anxious/angry withdrawals. I do better when I'm not given the free time to binge daydream and stay busy with real life. I'm still trying to find the perfect balance of daydreaming and being a productive person. It's tough because my wants are in contradiction with eachother. I really want to daydream for hours upon hours a day! But.. I also want to be able to support myself and be a functioning member of society. The second option is obviously the smarter choice but when you're addicted to something it's hard to say no, especially when it's something as seemingly harmless as daydreaming. |
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Post by pynkexodus on Apr 23, 2020 15:03:55 GMT
I understand what you mean. I'm new to the forum but I've been daydreaming since I was 8 years old and I'm 28 years old now. It does helps with my creativity with writing and other things but the thing is, for myself, it evolved into a way I wasn't fully engaged in my life. I'd look back and only remember most of my time was spent daydreaming. I haven't gotten to a point where I can let it go or do it in a controlled manner proudly. You're not alone though. As daydreams are as unique as the dreamer, so is the plan to make sense of it all. I wish you luck in that journey.
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Post by 4leafrose on Apr 23, 2020 21:54:10 GMT
I understand what you mean. I'm new to the forum but I've been daydreaming since I was 8 years old and I'm 28 years old now. It does helps with my creativity with writing and other things but the thing is, for myself, it evolved into a way I wasn't fully engaged in my life. I'd look back and only remember most of my time was spent daydreaming. I haven't gotten to a point where I can let it go or do it in a controlled manner proudly. You're not alone though. As daydreams are as unique as the dreamer, so is the plan to make sense of it all. I wish you luck in that journey. Thank you! Fortunately, I've always had a lot of control over my daydreaming. But even when I wanted to lose myself, I always had other things pull me back out. Family, friends, my faith, they kept me from throwing my life away. I'm almost ashamed to know that others really can't help it, while I practically volunteer. Still, I know I could do better and stop using it as a means to escape the real world. I wish you luck as well and perhaps I'll see you around the forums~ |
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Post by laura on Apr 30, 2020 10:04:45 GMT
This is very, very relatable. I can also control my daydreaming, but the urge is often there. Sometimes I am afraid that I won't be able to resist anymore. I mostly daydream just before sleeping, and I often wake up early in the morning to continue. I often take long showers, my husband thinks it is a waste of water, but he does not know I use the shower time for daydreaming..
I started daydreaming when I was young, probably out of boredom and as a result of reading many many books. I even quit daydreaming for a while, when I turned 18, because I was afraid I would turn schizophrenic.. The urge suddenly came back after more than 10 years.
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Post by Sam on May 4, 2020 20:34:07 GMT
This is very, very relatable. I can also control my daydreaming, but the urge is often there. Sometimes I am afraid that I won't be able to resist anymore. I mostly daydream just before sleeping, and I often wake up early in the morning to continue. I often take long showers, my husband thinks it is a waste of water, but he does not know I use the shower time for daydreaming.. I started daydreaming when I was young, probably out of boredom and as a result of reading many many books. I even quit daydreaming for a while, when I turned 18, because I was afraid I would turn schizophrenic.. The urge suddenly came back after more than 10 years. There's a huge difference between MD and schizophrenia. I highly doubt that you could ever cause schizophrenia by daydreaming. Schizophrenia is largely caused by genetic and environmental factors, not a maladaptive coping mechanism like MD. |
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Post by laura on May 5, 2020 8:03:04 GMT
This is very, very relatable. I can also control my daydreaming, but the urge is often there. Sometimes I am afraid that I won't be able to resist anymore. I mostly daydream just before sleeping, and I often wake up early in the morning to continue. I often take long showers, my husband thinks it is a waste of water, but he does not know I use the shower time for daydreaming.. I started daydreaming when I was young, probably out of boredom and as a result of reading many many books. I even quit daydreaming for a while, when I turned 18, because I was afraid I would turn schizophrenic.. The urge suddenly came back after more than 10 years. There's a huge difference between MD and schizophrenia. I highly doubt that you could ever cause schizophrenia by daydreaming. Schizophrenia is largely caused by genetic and environmental factors, not a maladaptive coping mechanism like MD. Yes, I know, but at that time I had no idea that MD was a thing! So I wondered if it somehow would lead to not knowing the difference between reality and daydream anymore. Now I now better.. |
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Post by elizabeth1117 on May 8, 2020 0:13:36 GMT
I really am envious of those of you who can control your daydreaming. I often cant. Even when I'm performing tasks or completing chores, or even sometimes talking to someone, I am of two minds - one is in the present moment, the other is in my daydream. I want to stop all of this because it causes me to be less effective in life. But, it's like a drug where I need a fix! I don't understand it. When my life is more stimulating, I do it less, but I'm always doing it to some degree. I wish there was therapy to stop it!
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if my case counts since I have full control over whether or not I daydream.... but even if I CAN control it, I'm still addicted, so I might choose daydreaming over more important things. It isn't always a bad thing. I love daydreaming! It's so much fun and as a writer and artist I can use it to my advantage! On the other hand, I find myself getting frustrated when I'm interrupted by real life or when I can't focus on daydreaming at work. It's especially bad when I have a long weekend or in this coronavirus mess where I have to do school at home. I'll waste hours daydreaming and if I get on a roll with an exciting part of the daydream...It's really hard after that to go back to regular work/life and I go through anxious/angry withdrawals. I do better when I'm not given the free time to binge daydream and stay busy with real life. I'm still trying to find the perfect balance of daydreaming and being a productive person. It's tough because my wants are in contradiction with eachother. I really want to daydream for hours upon hours a day! But.. I also want to be able to support myself and be a functioning member of society. The second option is obviously the smarter choice but when you're addicted to something it's hard to say no, especially when it's something as seemingly harmless as daydreaming.
