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Post by seranix on Apr 25, 2020 19:03:49 GMT
Hello! Okay, so, I have been dealing with Maladaptive Daydreaming since I can remember, and I found out what is actually happening to me around a half a year ago. I can freely confess, I am addicted to it. But, the problem is that I can't control it anymore. Before, I could freely enter it when ever I wanted to, and exit as well. Sure, there were times when my mind just wandered off, but it's getting worse now. I can't even read a paragraph or a section of a text for school without my mind just entering the world on it's own. I sometimes can't even remember what I was of. I love daydreaming too much, and I just get so nervous and uncomfortable if I don't go daydreaming. It doesn't even pass that much time... It has just become too much. Does anyone have any idea what to do? Next, I have been for a while now about confessing to my mom about things that have been going on in my head for past two years. We are close, but I just began to drift away, somehow. I just wasn't comfortable telling her things anymore, I was feeling ashamed of my own mind. Now, I feel like it's finally time to get some help. I have had enough. I honestly thought I could handle it on my own, but I am just so tired. And, the last thing I want is to escalate anything. So, talking to my mother seems like the best idea. The only problem is where to start? How to start? How to even begin the conversation? Will it just make things worse? Should I even tell her? I don't know, I am so confused... Now, a quick question that I have been debating on for a long time. Do psychologists even take on MD patients? Or not? I could continue asking questions all day, but these seem like the most important ones. And, these are the only things I am comfortable with telling right now. I am glad this is an anonymous page, because I probably wouldn't post anything if it wasn't. Anyway, if anyone has any advice for me, I would be very grateful. I am just a literal mess right now... Seranix
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Post by Sam on Apr 26, 2020 1:35:09 GMT
First of all, not all daydreaming is bad. Everyone daydreams and its a normal and necessary brain function for creativity, problem-solving, goal setting, and even stress reduction. Its when your daydreaming starts to interfere with your real-life and you feel like it controls you more than you control it that it becomes a problem.
Some people have found mindfulness to be useful in teaching yourself to continually come back to the present moment, so I would recommend looking into that. It's not about judging yourself for drifting off, it's about noticing that it happened and gently bringing your focus back to whatever it is you want to focus on.
Provided that they are understanding (or as understanding as one can be when they don't really know how this feels), telling people can definitely be a relief. I've told both of my parents, as well as a friend or two. Unless you're super open about feelings and stuff, in which case you might be able to sit down with someone and just explain MD outright, it might be easier to just slip references to your problem into general conversation and hope that they ask questions. Like, maybe if they notice that you've drifted off and aren't paying attention, say, "Oh, sorry, I was just compulsively daydreaming again." That will at least introduce the issue to them. You can decide what to do from there, depending on their response.
There isn't much medical research into MD yet, so not many psychologists know about it. In my experience, however, MD is almost always caused or made worse by some other comorbid condition(s). For me, it's anxiety and a predisposition for compulsive behaviors. While a psychologist might not know or understand enough about MD itself, they can treat any comorbid conditions you might have, and that will theoretically give you more control over your daydreaming.
Don't worry about asking too many questions. Everyone here on the forum can relate to your experiences in one way or another and we're all here to help :)
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Post by Deleted on May 17, 2020 9:22:38 GMT
I have been about telling my parents too, but I'm . I told one of my trusted friends, and she listened but didn't think much of it. I doubt my parents would be surprised, but it's not really a conversation I want to have. Plus, it might make them worry/ask if I have any other mental health problems, but I am ? I also feel very ashamed about my daydreaming. I would be mortified if someone asked what I DDed about (and have an unreasonable fear of possible telepathic people out in the world). I don't have any advice (also a mess), but did you end up talking to your parents? How did it go? Wait, I do have a little advice. In general doing things that interest me helps me control my daydreaming. For me, it's reading books. If I've been daydreaming a lot (and destroyed my attention span) then I have to start simple and fast-paced that I know I'll love (e.g. Percy Jackson) before I move on to more dense/complex books.
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Post by imafishsmts on May 19, 2020 23:59:15 GMT
hi, im new here, i want to tell my parents as well, and same! i feel so ashamed and i dont even want to talk about it with my closest friend. i tried to quick for a day but i couldnt, i just find myself doing it and its so hard to focusing on my homework etc :(
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