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Post by stevegan928 on Dec 11, 2018 18:24:24 GMT
Is anyone else oddly okay with their DD soulmate not existing? I've never really been  that my daydreams aren't real but rather just that they've ruined my life. Furthermore I don't know if I'd ever even want to stop daydreaming but rather just get to a place where I can manage it and even understand myself better by analyzing my daydreams. But yeah as for the whole soulmate thing I'm fine with her only existing in my head, I'm  if I could love a real person as much as I love her and the best thing about her is that she'll never hurt me. |
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Post by lavieenrose on Dec 11, 2018 19:27:13 GMT
I have to say that for me, meeting my DD soulmate in real life is kind of a fantasy in itself. I actually would really like that, and wonder sometimes if my DD would stop if that happened (I'm guessing the answer is maybe for a time, but not forever).
I will say though that the men that inhabit my DD are never really that perfect. In fact, they are quite flawed, but in a way that I find attractive (versus unattractive flaws). Almost all of my DD lovers have some serious baggage, and things they need to get over. But the difference with real life people (like my husband for instance) is that their baggage aligns with my own, and I therefore feel more comfortable being my true self with them than I am with real life people. I don't know if that makes any sense!
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Post by piphirho on Dec 11, 2018 19:30:22 GMT
Here's the thing. The concept of a "Soul Mate" is mostly a myth. EVERYBODY'S "soul mate" exists only in their head, whether you deal with MDD or not. Our soul mates are just better developed.
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Post by lavieenrose on Dec 11, 2018 19:44:48 GMT
Here's the thing. The concept of a "Soul Mate" is mostly a myth. EVERYBODY'S "soul mate" exists only in their head, whether you deal with MDD or not. Our soul mates are just better developed. I generally agree with this. But I do know a few people (not many though) who seem to be much better matched with their partners that most of us. And that even after many many years together. Every relationship is exciting in the beginning because you are in love, and I guess many of us are trying to recreate those beginnings in our heads. But some relationships do withstand the test of time, and I'm not talking about them still being together (many couples remain together for many many different reasons), but actually keeping some sort of spark alive over many years. In the daydreams, it's of course even better than that, unrealistically so unfortunately, but I feel that there is a possibility for a middle ground between reality and DD? |
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that my daydreams aren't real but rather just 
if I could love a real person as much as I love her and the best thing about her is that she'll never hurt me. 
