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Post by WonderWonderer on Dec 6, 2018 12:43:08 GMT
Hi to all you daydreamers. I am a female of 20 years of age and i've been daydreaming for as long as i can remember. My fantasies take place in a very carefully set ritual of a continually spinning dance like move, but in the past i could daydream while walking or during a car ride.Usually it takes 20 minites to 1 hour about 2 times a day. I never thought this was abnormal or something to correct, but it remains my darkest secret. I noticed that something was not right when (after years) spinning had brutally damaged my knees and feet. Every day i got through pain but never consider stopping. Just yesterday I question why I obsess over these fantasies and found out about maladaptive daydreaming. I have no diagnosis but I am very positive that this is it. I am scared I have to confess. I don't know who to talk to, since I don't have a therapist and talking to my parents about it is absolutely out of the question. Can someone help me?...
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Post by Dimmer on Dec 6, 2018 14:37:57 GMT
Welcome! Sorry to hear you don't have anyone to talk to, I guess that's what we're here for! And don't worry about a diagnosis, no one has one, MD is still too new to be recognized as an official disorder.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 6, 2018 18:00:02 GMT
 I’m really glad you’ve found out what this condition is - I can imagine (and remember) how shocking it is to learn that the thing you used to consider your own personal weird trait actually has a name. Please, don’t be scared - go through other people’s stories and you’ll see you are not alone in this, absolutely. Here you can speak about this absolutely safely - you know speaking and listening to others, we can overcome the fear. As for telling the parents, it ofc depends on your relationship without them - I told my mum when I learned because we are very close and she understood me. Btw I also had an injury because of daydreaming (and not just once). But for example, once when I was jumping and daydreaming, I hit my hand on my knee and damn broke my hand - can you imagine? Had to make up some silly story not to tell people the truth.
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Post by elizabeth1117 on Dec 7, 2018 22:34:37 GMT
I don't know if I can help you, but I (who also have MD) work with a lot of kids with Autism. Some of them spin and daydream as well. It's self-soothing. I believe some connection or overlap will be found between MD and Autism. I am not trying to suggest that all of us with MD also are on the Autism Spectrum, but perhaps it will later be discovered that there might be a similar brain function that is causing some of it. All I can suggest, as I am new to all this information as well, is that you would probably benefit from behavioral therapy. The kind that I do with autistic kids is to reward them if they can at least hold off of the spinning and daydreaming for short periods of time that are then stretched to longer periods. It's helpful to stay active, mentally and physically. Having a lot of physical exercises can cut down on the MD sessions. If you are too sore to do much, build up slowly. Engage in self-esteem building activities that are service-oriented, if you can. Short stints of helping other people keep you active, engaged and give you a sense of real accomplishment. Avoid triggers as much as you can. Music can be helpful or lead me into an MD session. Long times spent alone can also do that.
Please let me know if you find something that's helpful.
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Post by WonderWonderer on Dec 11, 2018 14:11:06 GMT
thank you for all your replies, very helpful and relieving 
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