Hi, all. I was wondering what are everyone's opinion about MD? Do you guys think it's a mental illness or something that can be a blessing that protects us from cruel things in the world? Just wondering, because yesterday I was caught doing it by my husband. I felt embarrassed by it, but it's the only way I truly feel happy. It's also impossible to stop. What are all your thoughts?
I don't really believe that MD by itself is a mental illness. For all intents and purposes, its a behavioral addiction that often occurs as an unhealthy coping mechanism (frequently for other mental illnesses). Daydreaming as a coping mechanism isn't inherently bad. Non-MDers do it all the time. However, for us, it's grown out of control and has taken over our lives. Instead of only daydreaming when we really truly need an escape, we start daydreaming whenever we encounter something that makes us even slightly uncomfortable.
It's also important to note that there's really no such thing as "stopping." Daydreaming is a natural and necessary function that helps with creativity and problem solving, and it's quite literally impossible to just completely stop daydreaming. The goal is to create a balance between real life and daydreams so that you can daydream and still function normally.
Don't give up what you want most for what you want now.
I think this is not a Completely ill. Yes I know that sometimes it spend my time when I try to work but this is type of relaxation. And The same thing happened to me. My sister saw me when I was in the daydream time, so ı understand you.
personally? I don't think it's a blessing, but more of a coping mechanism I guess. It's on the verge of a mental illness and definitely needs more recognition, at least in the wider science/medical/mental health community.
you shouldn't be embarrassed by MD, and I would recommend talking to your husband about it - it's always good to try and spread awareness about lesser-known boarderline mental illnesses/coping mechanisms.
there isn't a cure, but it's true that you can learn to control it a bit more with practice. for me, anywhere from 10-80% of my mind is occupied with daydreaming at any given time - it never stops, and sometimes I loose all sense of what's around me (I was once walking home and got mugged, but was so out of it due to MD I didn't even notice apparently - I only know this because I was with someone else, who told me of how I acted later).