Post by thedolphinbaby57 on Oct 18, 2020 16:10:21 GMT
This thought has been in my head for quite some time now and I thought it would be nice to share here on the forum. Have you ever seen someone that you regularly see and you kinda want to know them...but instead of actually getting to know them you daydream about you guys having a good friendship and maybe even dating... or instead you see or meet someone who looks like the exact character that you made up in your head for one of your daydreams and now that real life person you saw has replaced the the fake character in your head? This happened to me several times recently and it makes me a little scared. When I was 13 (i'm 15 now) I had a made up character in my head that was kinda inspired from a character on a video game that I used to play. I ended up daydreaming about that character and made him into a real person with a different name and personality and all in my head. His name was Jae. Jae was a made up character in my head and had platinum blonde hair, very muscular and had a six pack, German, had a nice deep voice with a nice accent, was an entrepreneur and FBI agent, protective, I could go on and on. In mid-July I was google surfing and I stumbled upon someone in real life who looked like "Jae". I instantly gained a crush on him and followed him on Insta for over a year. But recently I unfollowed him when I realized that the only reason I may have been obsessed over him was because he looked like "Jae". This man wasn't exactly like "Jae" but he was very similar to him and actually had platinum blonde hair. When I came to this realization, I cried a little at realizing this man was just a trigger for my daydreams and was fueling my little fantasies. I have temptation to look at his profile again but I know if I do then I will just daydream about him instead. Another thing I noticed was that when I'm at school is that I tend to daydream about the people I'm constantly seeing and passing everyday (because of Covid-19 I can only go to school 2-3 times a week so i see the same exact people those days) I would see a girl that I see sometimes at lunch who dresses kinda vintage like and I would daydream about me and her becoming friends and spending our whole teenage life together but in real life I never actually said a word to her. It makes me scared that real people can trigger me and make daydream about them. It makes me feel like I can't talk to anyone out of wanting to talk to them and I feel like I can't go anywhere and be around people without this happening again. Did you experience the same thing I did? If so, How'd you handle it? I would like to know please. Thanks for reading
I think so! Whenever I stumble upon someone that I want to be friends with, they can appear in my daydreams. Also, if the real life people behind some of my characters make a statement on them or someone looks or makes a spoof of them, it becomes a trigger because I want my characters to react. This is pretty common with most of us too.